hey guys.
Guys, i'm pumped! I'm just excited. Its a great feeling knowing that I pulled off something that a lot of guys would be scared about, and knowing that I nailed it!
anyway, had a coffee date with HBGeek (original sarge and number close here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=88172).
I had just arrived and sat down, ordered a latte and was enjoying the pleasant weather when HBGeek showed up.
A little background on this girl maybe: i have named her HBGeek because she is doing the same degree as me (an elite IT one with only 5% female enrolment), but a year below me. She's one of those girls who is cool and reasonably hot, but is also a closet, mild level geek. I find that really attractive, since I can relate to that whole undercover geek thing, plus we can talk nerd to each other, increasing my repertoire of interesting conversation! Huyooo!
I was sitting at a far table from the entrance, and she walked in, looked around (somehow not seeing me), and goes and sits down at some other table. I just laugh, shake my head, and watch her for a few seconds.
Anyway, eventually i take pity on her, and I sneak up behind her. I bend down really close behind her and say with a deep voice "looking for someone?". She jumps a mile and I laugh my ass off.
She playfully grabs my stomach and punches me, and I bust on her some more. We go back to my table, and we start talking. It took her a couple of minutes to open up (she's the shy type around guys she recently met), but I got the ball rolling by playing the 'tell me something about you that I don't know' game, an invention (as far as I know) and favourite of mine. You basically ask her to tell you something about her that you don't know. Most girls will take a while to think of something, giving you time to bust on her for being completely uninteresting and thinking of something really good for your turn which will continue the conversation easily. I reccommend running this little game when you think the conversation is stagnating.
We chat happily for the next half an hour, at which point I notice the convo starting to lull. This is when I got a great idea: switch venues! Get more convo (and subsequent kino) through more stimulation for convo.
I say "lets go for a walk." The coffee place is right next to the mall, so we go for a walk through there. We go into a department store, and walk through the clothes section. Guys, this is a JACKPOT for convo material, kino opportunities and busting on her. We talk about taste in fashion, about how metrosexuals are not attractive, about how many pairs of shoes someone needs to own to qualify as a metrosexual, etc.
I invite her to complement my excellent fashion sense with some of her womanly sensibilities on the subject. Asking a woman for fashion advice (done from a standpoint of interest, not neediness) is CHICK CRACK! they LOVE this stuff, even the less girly-girl types like this one. We walk through the girls department, where I get her to try on all these hats (the broad-brimmed, flowery ones) while busting on her playfully. By now, I had gotten a fair bit of kino happening. Touching her lower back and arm, wrapping my arm around her waist (which she reciprocated happily) and playing with her hair.
Walked past the underwear and she says "are you a boxers or briefs man?". I smile and say "I don't reveal intimate details on the first date." She puts on a look of fake shock, and goes "well, I'll just have to find out myself!" and tries to grab the back of my pants. I grab her arm, swivel it around to my arm is around her waist and laugh. She seemed really into it too.
I gave her a lift home, but didn't kiss her goodbye. The reason why is that I KNEW she wanted a kiss, and wanted her to wait till next time. She had spent an unecessarily long time (by a few seconds, so nothing uncomfortable) in the car after I had parked. I held her hand and said "I'll see you later." She got out, leaning down and smiling in a certain way (i can't describe it, it was almost like she was swept off her feet
:crackup: ) before closing the door. I leave feeling happy with the job I did.
things learned:
- the convo game mentioned previously is a good thing to use in such a situation.
- venue change is GOLD. do it.
- department stores give you a wealth of things to talk about and do, which involve a lot of touching and teasing. )
Now, i'd like to know something: was I right about the kiss thing, like, by not kissing her?
I'd really appreciate comments by the high-fliers on here, you guys know who you are!
Guys, i'm pumped! I'm just excited. Its a great feeling knowing that I pulled off something that a lot of guys would be scared about, and knowing that I nailed it!
anyway, had a coffee date with HBGeek (original sarge and number close here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=88172).
I had just arrived and sat down, ordered a latte and was enjoying the pleasant weather when HBGeek showed up.
A little background on this girl maybe: i have named her HBGeek because she is doing the same degree as me (an elite IT one with only 5% female enrolment), but a year below me. She's one of those girls who is cool and reasonably hot, but is also a closet, mild level geek. I find that really attractive, since I can relate to that whole undercover geek thing, plus we can talk nerd to each other, increasing my repertoire of interesting conversation! Huyooo!
I was sitting at a far table from the entrance, and she walked in, looked around (somehow not seeing me), and goes and sits down at some other table. I just laugh, shake my head, and watch her for a few seconds.
Anyway, eventually i take pity on her, and I sneak up behind her. I bend down really close behind her and say with a deep voice "looking for someone?". She jumps a mile and I laugh my ass off.
She playfully grabs my stomach and punches me, and I bust on her some more. We go back to my table, and we start talking. It took her a couple of minutes to open up (she's the shy type around guys she recently met), but I got the ball rolling by playing the 'tell me something about you that I don't know' game, an invention (as far as I know) and favourite of mine. You basically ask her to tell you something about her that you don't know. Most girls will take a while to think of something, giving you time to bust on her for being completely uninteresting and thinking of something really good for your turn which will continue the conversation easily. I reccommend running this little game when you think the conversation is stagnating.
We chat happily for the next half an hour, at which point I notice the convo starting to lull. This is when I got a great idea: switch venues! Get more convo (and subsequent kino) through more stimulation for convo.
I say "lets go for a walk." The coffee place is right next to the mall, so we go for a walk through there. We go into a department store, and walk through the clothes section. Guys, this is a JACKPOT for convo material, kino opportunities and busting on her. We talk about taste in fashion, about how metrosexuals are not attractive, about how many pairs of shoes someone needs to own to qualify as a metrosexual, etc.
I invite her to complement my excellent fashion sense with some of her womanly sensibilities on the subject. Asking a woman for fashion advice (done from a standpoint of interest, not neediness) is CHICK CRACK! they LOVE this stuff, even the less girly-girl types like this one. We walk through the girls department, where I get her to try on all these hats (the broad-brimmed, flowery ones) while busting on her playfully. By now, I had gotten a fair bit of kino happening. Touching her lower back and arm, wrapping my arm around her waist (which she reciprocated happily) and playing with her hair.
Walked past the underwear and she says "are you a boxers or briefs man?". I smile and say "I don't reveal intimate details on the first date." She puts on a look of fake shock, and goes "well, I'll just have to find out myself!" and tries to grab the back of my pants. I grab her arm, swivel it around to my arm is around her waist and laugh. She seemed really into it too.
I gave her a lift home, but didn't kiss her goodbye. The reason why is that I KNEW she wanted a kiss, and wanted her to wait till next time. She had spent an unecessarily long time (by a few seconds, so nothing uncomfortable) in the car after I had parked. I held her hand and said "I'll see you later." She got out, leaning down and smiling in a certain way (i can't describe it, it was almost like she was swept off her feet
:crackup: ) before closing the door. I leave feeling happy with the job I did.
things learned:
- the convo game mentioned previously is a good thing to use in such a situation.
- venue change is GOLD. do it.
- department stores give you a wealth of things to talk about and do, which involve a lot of touching and teasing.
)Now, i'd like to know something: was I right about the kiss thing, like, by not kissing her?
I'd really appreciate comments by the high-fliers on here, you guys know who you are!
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