Down to what matters

[Pozitron]

This is the practical stuff. I've been caught up too long in all this. And by this I mean reading stuff on improvement, listening to tapes, books, videos... you know... that stuff. Maybe it thought me something, but it didn't really changed me. Guess what... you have to do it old school. You have to step up and do something about it. Action as someone said is EVERYTHING.
The funny thing is that I've known that all this time. I was aware, but yet no change ( by this I mean at the level that I want it). You may say whatever.
This is the ending of that ( I'll want to get back to that, but this will help).

These is the real stuff that will get me going and keep me going. I have to get into overdrive, get on track and once I made it, stay there cause it's a continuous journey.

So here it goes...

 

[Plec07]

It's true, action is everything. Application is what counts. Practice makes perfect.

It doesn't matter what your doing, whether your learning to attracting women, learning to ride a motorcycle, or learning to play the guitar. 10% of your knowledge comes from theory, 90% is from experience.

 

[Pozitron]

After so much time searching ( many times with no purpose) I decided to start living my life, finding my own answers instead of looking for them.

What do I want now?
I want to become the person I want to be, to enjoy my life one day at a time and help others do the same.

Observations

Obs 1
It's about the journey, not the destination.
It's about evolving and moving toward what I want.
Never be perfect, but human.

Obs 2
Time is limited and valuable. I'm here to live and not prepare to live.

 

[Pozitron]

Me

It's really about me ( not imitating someone or living their life ). The focus is me, my life, discovering more about myself, finding answers and what works for me.

Change

I must focus on changing myself based on what I want to achive and become. I will adapt my approach until it works.

 

[Pozitron]

The trap

I think... no... I'm SURE I'll reach a point when I'll be tempted to live that illusion again. The illusion that makes me search for more when I have enough, that fools me I'm getting better even though I'm taking no action, that feeds my ego and in the end makes no change. In the end... it's just a waste of time cause I'm doing all that just for the sake of it... not for really finding answers ( maybe even when I do I skip them considering that they are not important). In the end I am still existing, not satisfied with my life ang yep... I still do nothing about it.
It's an illusion because it gives me fake confidence and leads me to think that I've achieved something even though I'm still running on default mode.

This will remind me to not fall into the same trap again.

 

[Pozitron]

It looks like I need a plan...

I find that after I "search for answers" ( basically a habit of wasting my time ) I go right back into real life and do nothing about it. There goes the default mode again.

Ok so I've also found out that if I focus for a while on a thing it becomes natural and becomes new default ( second nature).
EX. I used to never touch girls ( I mean almost never). This one time I went in a trip and started to kino a girl, yet very casual and light. I didn;t get a negative response. Furthermore, I back then thought it went great.
Fast forward I find now myself touching naturally ( for me means without thinking) girls on the shoulder or arm when I make a point or just have a convo.


So... in order to change something I must focus on something.
That basically means I need a PLAN .
The golden rule must be : Follow the plan and Adapt the approach if necessary ( but still do the action/ get the result I want)

 

[Pozitron]

I will take control over my life

By planing ( not much time) and taking action ( the rest) I want to achieve more control in my life.

It won't be easy to follow the plan. There will be temptations and then there is a minor setback... all my life I've spent having this habits and doing the things that bring me short time "pleasure" and long term pain.
It won't be easy, but I'll do it.

When?
Tomorrow. I happen to know a thing or two about time management that I'll maybe mention here at a point and I plan on using it.

Tomorrow is the first day of my new life.
No excuses - I'll push myself if I must ( and I feel like I will have to do that at least until this becomes more comfortable... second nature).

So about the plan... tomorrow...? Oh yea...
-I have a lot to work on for school . What can I say.. a consequence of my old lazy life...
-I want to go running in the morning.
-I want to spend some time reading some interesting science stuff ( have them, never read them -- oh.. please... what a life I had!)

I'll see what happens and will post if I've achieved my plan.
Now good night to you all.