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Down Played By Co-Workers/ I canceled our date

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Brief Intro: I met this new hostess at work who is also new to this city. We work the same days, but never together(She works during the day, I work at night). About a week ago we finally worked together and I spit my game on her. Got obvious IOI's the whole time, ended up exchanging facebook/myspace accounts, and # closed her. We texted/called eachother for a week and half if not most of them initiated by her. I invited her to go out for some 'ice cream' with me TONIGHT.

Yesterday: So since monday ive been trying to find someone who could cover my shift tonight just for this little date. Yesterday I got a call from the owner of the store telling me that I was going to ruin everyones schedule in both branches of their restaurant by asking for tonight off and he sounded pretty pissed. I figured that ice cream night can come sometime else and it wasnt worth screwing 2 restaurant branches over and possibly getting fired so I told him to forget it and Ill just work. I called the store and my target answered and we flirted on the phone for a bit before I gave her the bad news.

Later on that night: Normally when I come into work I would neg her right when I walk in, but there were alot of costumers and it was busy so i didnt bother. Also, usually as she's about to leave she always finds me and says bye with a little bit of kino(hand on my back or shoulder, or sometimes on my face for some reason...i think she's aiming for a hug, but I just dont supplicate) but last night she hardly said anything to me and just left. I figured she must have been going through sh!t or was just really stressed out by work. It was then when a highly trusted co-worker of mine told me what happened earlier that day that might have affected her. He told me that while the staff was eating lunch the older co-workers(male and female in their late 30's) were asking her if she had a BF(she doesnt) and one of those mutherfcukers straight up asks "YOU LIKE 'REBOUND MATERIAL'?! YOU DO DON'T YOU!?". After this fcuker asks that she basically got harrassed by the other older people asking the same thing. According to my friend she kept saying "NO! its not like that! we're just friends!"...Regardless, im pretty sure she was embarrassed being put on the spotlight like that and basically getting *******'d even if she liked me or not.(a few minutes after this, was when I called and broke the date).

Here are my questions:

1) After I told her I had to cancel our ice cream outing, she was the one trying to find another day that SHE was available because she's gonna be with her family for the next 2 weeks. I simply said "Ill let you know after new years". Was breaking the date a good idea? Did it raise or lower her IL toward me?

2) By my whack ass co-workers embarrassing her and basically putting our sh!t on blast...did that affect her IL also? Was it a game-killer?
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Thanks iqqi and danger. Tonight, she was back to normal I guess. She talked to me a little more, laughed all the time, an yea...not like yesterday. Now, theres a 2 week span that she isnt really available(or at all) and I know that the first date REALLY decides where you go with someone whether it be the FZ(friendzone) or something more than that...Do you guys think that I should re-schedule this date after these 2 weeks pass...? I mean, I know for sure I got her interest NOW, but after 2 weeks I dunno if itll be the same...
 

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Tell her to make some time for you and some ice cream..and cocoa (?it is winter... then again you in cali.).

Then take her to go see Golden Compass. (I am projecting my own desires here, lol.)
 

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yea iqqi, it doesnt snow here in SD...

But I also thought of this...if i were to re-schedule our date, should I shoot for ice cream again or try something different? I was thinking of telling her "Hey, ice cream with me this (day). We gotta make up for last time". And while we're out for ice cream do something totally random and not in plan...i dunno what it is yet per say, but i was thinking of going out to the freezing ass beach at night.
 

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Rebound Material said:
yea iqqi, it doesnt snow here in SD...

But I also thought of this...if i were to re-schedule our date, should I shoot for ice cream again or try something different? I was thinking of telling her "Hey, ice cream with me this (day). We gotta make up for last time". And while we're out for ice cream do something totally random and not in plan...i dunno what it is yet per say, but i was thinking of going out to the freezing ass beach at night.
I'd be mad if you took me to the freezing beach.
 

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I havent had contact with her since last wedsday until this morning when I texted her merry christmas and she texted me back...I feel like Im losing her interest. Anyway to save this? I feel like I shouldnt throw in the towel until we've at least gone on one date.
 

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You definitely did the right thing by going into work, she should understand that you had a responsibility to your job, especially after they pitched a ***** that you tried to take off. It doesn't sound like you've done anything that's a dealbreaker or even bad yet. Wait until after the holidays and see what happens, maybe give her a call sometime just to keep in contact if it's more than a week.
 

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Bro, get a grip!!! Your over-thinking this whole situation. Did you tell her why you had to cancel the original ice-cream get together? If you did, then your good, she should understand. If you didn't tell her why, then its your fault for not keeping her informed.

In any case, she's not losing interest over anything you did or didn't do. It is natural for someone to lose interest if there is a long period of very little/no contact. And unless she's going to be out of town with her family, why not set-up something for this week?

Lastly, get a hold of yourself, before you get one-itis. Your half way there already, once the other shoe drops your done.




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Invite her to a party or something...or try to get with her on New Years, there's a good excuse for a kiss at midnight. Right now it sounds like both of you are putting too much pressure on yourselves, it's supposed to be fun.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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