Doubts regarding escalating / growing interest

[DocFaustus]

Hi everyone
Imagine the normal situation which some of us face in Highschool. You got no car, you go around by bus, some might have the luck to live in interesting places, others are more unfortunate and the only activities they have avaiable is going out to a park or cinema. You ask a girl out, maybe you are going to get a coffee, maybe you are going to see a movie at the nearest shopping center.

What after? Some girls might be easy, you know, a few looks and you are already making out. Others, the more interesting ones (in my opinion), aren't, (or maybe you aren't interested in a thing like that). What do you do ? How do you get from that initial showing of your interested (you asked her out) to developing interest?

In an atual example, I knew a girl for a few years (we're friends, not too close), recently asked her out, she accept but got sick but she told me for us to go out in another day. I'm asking her out after xmas for a coffee in my small town, given that the date happens, I'm sitting in front of her talking, everything going fine, what then ?

Thanks for the help !

 

[amazingswayze]

if you want to escalate, find a way to isolate.

 

[beforeimgone]

Hi everyone
Imagine the normal situation which some of us face in Highschool. You got no car, you go around by bus, some might have the luck to live in interesting places, others are more unfortunate and the only activities they have avaiable is going out to a park or cinema. You ask a girl out, maybe you are going to get a coffee, maybe you are going to see a movie at the nearest shopping center.

What after? Some girls might be easy, you know, a few looks and you are already making out. Others, the more interesting ones (in my opinion), aren't, (or maybe you aren't interested in a thing like that). What do you do ? How do you get from that initial showing of your interested (you asked her out) to developing interest?

In an atual example, I knew a girl for a few years (we're friends, not too close), recently asked her out, she accept but got sick but she told me for us to go out in another day. I'm asking her out after xmas for a coffee in my small town, given that the date happens, I'm sitting in front of her talking, everything going fine, what then ?

Thanks for the help !

Personally I'd go with the sleazebag option. See how much she is willing to let you get away with sexually.


Also, Read my thread:


"All it takes it two things to make her love you forever" you aren't in a relationship with her so the part concerning you would be the investment. Get her to do things for you as often as you can and make sure to make her feel like you appreciate her.

 

[Huffman]

Quick tip, even if you're just having coffee or drinks - bounce to a different place.
It may sound weird, but make sure you move from one place to the next, and maybe a third. With drinks, you can call it bar-hopping. With coffee it's harder to make it sound not weird, but how about you combine coffee with a walk and an ice cream (in summer).

Reason being, walking next to each other feels refreshing (anti-boring!) and opens up every possibility for touching.
If you're sitting across each other on a table for 2 hours and then leave - it can be hard.