"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dorchester

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Hi all, I've been visiting the Don Juan forums here and there for a bit, and I've finally registered.

About me:

I'm a high school senior who has recently transferred to a completely new area. I think it will be nice for a fresh stage to experiment before college.

I'm about 5'7", tan complexioned, and of average weight (slim with some muscle: I'm on tennis team). My family is fairly wealthy, I'm really smart and very academic (state colleges are offering me a full ride).

I want to get more success with girls. I'm not very experienced and I hope to learn from other users on these forums.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Saturday, October 31, 2012

Tomorrow night, a friend of mine is having a pretty big open house party. My goal is to connect with new people and get at least two phone numbers. Overall, I want to just get more visibility.

Sunday, October 30, 2012

Party flopped due to cops patrolling the area. I helped out a few junior guys who wanted to get around, and they are frequently hooking up with girls. I also met another group of guys in my neighborhood who hook up a lot, and they really liked me. I'm grabbing lunch with one of them this week.
 
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Monday, October 1, 2012
I'm in very advanced classes, so my options are limited at school. There's a somewhat cute girl in my language class, who today seemed frustrated with her work. I was the only one who noticed this and I made eye contact with her. We talked during the whole passing period after class about senior year, and I got her number.
I've been seeing an athletic girl around school, and I saw in the lunch line. I decided to playfully cut in line with her, and she played back. Talked with her for a good amount of time even after we bought our food. I plan on asking for her number if I talk to her outside of lunch.
A girl who is somewhat-friends with me wants to try out pot with me later this week. Hoping to get to know her better so I can meet her hot friends.
 
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This week I have loads of exams and assessments, so I'm holding off on journaling for a few days. I met another senior guy who's new to this school and wants to get more connected. Maybe I can work together with him on improving game et cetera.

I'm also flooded with college applications and whatnot. I should really be getting myself to those. So I'll make a public vow to finish my apps, because I heard it's good motivation.

I, Dorchester, swear to finish up all my college apps this week, so I can go party during the weekend and meet new people.

Also, I'm trying th 30-day no fap challenge. Started on the 1st of the month.
 
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Wednesday, October 10
Barely any progress on the college apps. But I did finish all my schoolwork for the week, so I've reserved time to work on it.

I have connections to get alcohol, so I'm helping out 2 friends by bringing some to their gatherings (not really a party) Saturday night. It's kind of a small start, but I'm staying optimistic. I'm hoping to broaden my circle at these two events.

I'm having trouble meeting new people and it's going really slow.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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