"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don't you just hate...

tobiashunter

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When you are talking to a girl who has a boyfriend, and she says "I would so be your girlfriend if I wasn't with so-and-so". It's like.. You aren't in the friendzone, but you can't proceed anymore because of Mr. Boyfriend.

I just had this happen TWICE.
One who is a good friend from Highschool (who I haven't seen in 3 years and NOW she is a lingerie/swimsuit model... OMG she is hot..)
And the other is this girl I have known for the past 4 months, and she talks to me nearly every day, comes to my apartment when she wants a place to sleep besides her parents house and when she doesn't wanna see her bf.

Maybe I shouldn't be such a nice guy anymore....


Has any of this happened to ya'll? a great girl, 7-10, says they would love to be with you in a relationship/sexual relationship "if it wasn't for" their boyfriend?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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snintel

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Get them questioning their relationship. If she is saying things like that, she must not be having a great relationship. Probably too weak willed to get out of it herself. You can disguise the questions as positive
 

penkitten

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you want this girl to be yours?
why ?
is she gonna tell other guys she would love to be their gf if she wasnt with you in 6 mo?

aw!!!

if she didnt want her bf, she would kick him to the curb. shes still with him so thats telling me she still wants him too.

this little girl has no clue what she wants, and i think she isnt considering your feelings by telling you this, her bfs feelings by not being honest and that is selfish.
 
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