Don't want to give my Facebook - QUICK HELP!

[omega05]

I wouldn't want to add a girl I just met to my facebook either cuz what if she starts flaking and not returning his calls?

 

[For_F]

This is an example of what I call "making a big deal out of nothing."

Hope that doesn't sound too rude, but really: it's NOT a big deal. I don't add any of the girls I'm dating to Facebook at all. If they ask about it, I give them one of 3 answers:

ANSWER #1: I've seen too many relationships go bad as a result of facebook post misinterpretations, so I make it a point not to add anyone I'm dating

ANSWER #2: I feel as though you (talking to the girl) have the right to keep some things private just as I do. I don't feel like whatever you're posting on your wall is my business and vice-versa.

ANSWER #3: I'm already friends with you in REAL life; no need for you to become a fake friend of mine on Facebook.

If they have a problem with any one of these answers, I could care less. Foot in the ground - she ain't gotta like it, but she'll at least respect it.

These days I don't want a girl I meet to be on my Facebook. I mean, there are things I've commented on and pictures Ive uploaded that someone who just came into your life might think wtf? I guess it's the same thing on their end. Ive added girls in the past who I just met and I go on their FB and see some sh*t that really turns me off them. I guess it's a double edged sword. You might be thankful that you found out she's a complete f*ckwit through her FB if you haven't already face to face or you could even see her friends as I have in the past - full of biker dudes and wanna be gangsters.

But also, could be a positive.

All comes down to whether you just want to pump and dump or actually get to know them.