"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dont wanna end the relationship just yet...

illmatic1005

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ok..you've all probably seen my past posts but im taking ur advice into serious consideration now..but please listen up

My GF use to be a slut..she use to like random hook-ups, giving head, handjobs, with no strings attached...until she met me and she realized she wants to take it seriously..

But i kno for a fact that she only likedrandom hookups becasue she was BADLY HURT in a previous relationship and didnt want any committments.

She is still a virgin..i kno this for a FACT..its a long story but its true..i kno its hard to beleive but its true..and she wants me to be "the one"

She tells me she loves me all the time..but i do not beleive this one bit..i tell her i love her too..but i dont think its true either..

I have been wanting to break up with her for a while now...but dont wanna do it because i became REALLY GOOD friends with both of her brothers who are around my age...i hang out with them too and they are happy im with their sister...If i break up with her..her brothers may hate me, and i dont wanna lose them because they are such good friends...but even if they still like me,, hanging out with them means seeing their sister(my gf)..and shes the 'get even' type of girl who would hook up with guys just to make me jealous that i broke up with her...

IF i break up with her i will be happier(maybe)..BUT i may lose 2 good friends in the process, and any summer plans we had i wont be included in them and wont be around probably the funnest people i've ever met in my life as much as i would be if i stayed with my gf...

i guess i wont break up with her...ill let her decide what she wants to do...

GOod plan?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Evzone

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Dude, first of all you need to decide what it is that you want.

You have given us reasons why the two of you should continue dating but none really as to why you shouldn't, or why you said that you'd be happier if you stopped dating her.

So, exactly why is it that you want to end it? I am guessing you have some reason since you started this thread; clarify.
 

SparkleMotion

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She's going to break up with you, if you are "letting her decide what she wants to do". You are being submissive and insecure by taking this route.

If she is the "get even" type, I wouldn't let the relationship go on any longer. Since the more serious the relationship gets, the only more "getting even" you will have to worry about.

IMHO she sounds like a basket-case, or a hormonal 15 year old. Why would you want a poisonous relationship like that in your life?

How do you know she's a virgin? Maybe it was in a previous post that I missed.

My advice, end it. Nothing good will come from continually forcing yourself to be in a relationship that you know you don't want to be in (otherwise you wouldn't be asking us). Your judgment is just being clouded by those things called "emotions".

I went through a similar situation when I was younger, believe me when I say I know it's a hard decision (and hard to analyze) from your current position. But once time passes, and you are able to look back upon it clearly you will realise what would have been the right thing to do. Even if it seems terrifying right now.
 
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