"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MoonieTX

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I am having some good conversations on the mature men board about my current fling. But, after reading the posts on here it is giving me a lot more confidence. Always smiling at girls at work, I used to either look down or just walk straight past them.

Anyway, the question I have has anyone ever dated a girl in a wheel chair? I was out side my work today and this hottie in a wheel chair got stuck in the doors, so I walked over to help her, held the door etc. She says 'thanks for the help blah blah' I say no prob, have a good day with a big smile. But as she rolled off, she looked round and gave me this big arse grin. I see her around the office once in a while, I was hoping to chat with her again. I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but do the rules apply the same. Obviusly she is just in a wheel chair and not handicapped in other way. I would just like to hear from anyone that has been in a similar situation.

Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Basically she's a female just like the others. Approach her with charm, get her number, take her out, take it from there :D She might have issues about being in a wheelchair though? It depends on her personality, how long she's been wheelchair bound, and whether there's hope for her to walk on her own again?

If she's got issues, she's going to be a lot of work. If you get serious with her, you'll have to consider a lot of other things too. Whether she's worth your investment or not depends on you - if you really want her, go in by all means, but do it with your wide eyes open.
 

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She seems cool when I have seen her, very bubbly!!!

The big problem is where to take her etc, but maybe i am just jumping the gun I need hold a convo first. Plus she drives a kick ass Monte Carlo SS, that could be a good opener. I think I will try the smile and Hi in the corridor and go from there.

Thanks bruv.
 
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no worries ;)

Nothing wrong with planning ahead, as long as you don't get too emotionally attached...

I actually think this is one of those cases where you can ignore the usual DJ advice which is basically lay down the law for the first few dates. I reckon once you have her number you should ask her if there's anywhere she'd like to go, or discuss places to go with her. After all, you don't wanna buy tickets for something and find they don't cater well for people in wheelchairs!

Good luck with getting her number - hope it goes well :)
 

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At least you won't have to take her dancing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hey Gravyboat, I was thinking the same, but thought it un PC to say that. Maybe I should open with that, it would make me sound really funny or she might shoot me.
 

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All women are the same. I just wouldnt joke around about her disability.:cool:
 

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Until I find out what happened I will keep my twisted sense of humor in check I think.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yeah I don't know if I'd actually use the "no dancing" line--unless you get to know her and she's a super-cool chick. That was more of an "internal monologue..." :p
 

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makes me wonder haw far down she is peralized. if she can't feel the "you know what", it would make the relationship hard
 

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Dated a hearing impaired girl. Same thing. Best thing was she couldnt hear me calling her dirty slut when i was banging her.
 

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Originally posted by Skel
Dated a hearing impaired girl. Same thing. Best thing was she couldnt hear me calling her dirty slut when i was banging her.
:crackup:
 
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