Don't Tell People Your Goals?

Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan

Aug 14, 2013

Peaks and Valleys got me thinking. You can be viewed as weak when people see you struggling or spending many hours on something.

From a value/reputation standpoint, it's often better not to mention the long hours and struggle part. Don't say anything until you get there.

A lot of hard working people I know tell everybody about how many hours they spend at a job/business/goal/fitness, etc. It's not wrong to do that per se. It's the truth. But, in my experience, other people don't care about that at ALL. They only see money, fit body, or whatever is the RESULT of your efforts, NOT the EFFORT itself.

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.