"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't Tell People Your Goals?

Mike32ct

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Peaks and Valleys got me thinking. You can be viewed as weak when people see you struggling or spending many hours on something.

From a value/reputation standpoint, it's often better not to mention the long hours and struggle part. Don't say anything until you get there.

A lot of hard working people I know tell everybody about how many hours they spend at a job/business/goal/fitness, etc. It's not wrong to do that per se. It's the truth. But, in my experience, other people don't care about that at ALL. They only see money, fit body, or whatever is the RESULT of your efforts, NOT the EFFORT itself.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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