"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Don't talk no sh!t, don't be no b!tch

Patrick124

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learned a lesson just recently.
I have this bad habit: when girls do something to piss me off, i end up talking about it a LOT with their friends. Usually it escalates to me like "Yo, fvck that, if she doesn't call me back tonight, I'm done." and that type of stuff, when I don't really mean it. I'm usually jsut utterly p!ssed about how the whole night went in general.
Note: we weren't super-super close, she bailed a lot on plans. but then told all her friends she always wanted to chill with me and talked about me alot. So i jsut kept trying to chill with her, and each time it got fvcked, I got pushed further.

This chick had a bad habit of not answering ehr phone[her friends even confirmed this for me, I saw them call her often]. Otherwise thou, she was one of the those chicks worth more than a one-nighter.

Last saturday night I blew my whole ngiht. I drove the 15 minute drive to her district to chill with my best-friend n his girl, in hopes shed end up with us[as she said she would]. Lots of phonecalls back and forth later, shes at a party drunk, "doesn't think she can see me tonight."
i basicly go "thats cool. I feel like I'm wasting my time with you. have fun at ur party. peace."
after she calls n apologizes n invites me tot his party, my friend falls asleep..so i can't go. Next morning she calls 3 tiems n leaves a messaeg apologizing more n wants a call back. I call ehr back monday night.

Apparently that day 2 people yelled at her for me hahahahahaha. My big mouth talkin too much sh!t got her friends pissed at her. I think they all ended up telling her everything I ever said about her.... i told her "aight well i'm sorry botu that...if u still want to chill, give me a call."
yeah, a week later n no call. I ruined my chances with a HB8.5 whsoe amazingly fun, cause i talk too much n she fvcks up too much.
damn. i kinda miss her.

DOn't make my ****in mistakes. Keep ur sh!t talking to urself/with her. not her friends[they all love me btw, and were all backing me the majority of the time we were "sorta-together."]

-pat
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Patrick124

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i guess my whoel point with this thread was A) to make an example of myself and B) ask a question.
you think i should call her up n try n fix things, or just fvck it n NEXT the chick?
 

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don't next her, just stop being such a little ***** ***** follwing her everywhere calling her to come and see you.

You know you have no power over her emotions yet, so why bother now? she knows you LVOE her somewhere inside, I can see it without you saying the word.

Just stop being so desperate and give both of you some space, expecially if your not going out yet
 

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whoa whoa whoa.
her and i made an arrangement that night to chill. she said she wanted to, and then baield once iw as out at my boys house.
thats not following. thats her being a b-i-t-c-h.
and considering she almost cried when i told ehr "i feel like you're a waste fo my time." i think i DO have control over ehr emotions[and this might scare her?] lol.
 

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Well remember there are so many variables when it comes to girls. It could be ANYTHING that turned her off you.

Give it a week and give her a call and say "look, we bot screwed up. I thought there could have been something good between us, do you want to catch up again?"

If no, **** her. Not literally. Next.

But just keep things in the future to yourself. If she was really wasting your time and you didn't care then you wouldn't have told her friends. But ..now that you have learnt your lesson you won't do it again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yea, dont talk behind someone's back or complain to her friends about her, that's b!tch made. Tell her to her face. And she keeps flaking on you. Call her out on it and one and done her ass
 
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