Don't talk about it... be about it

[backbreaker]

I am sure you have heard that say ing before.

I am going to try to attempt what this means in terms of being a true DJ.


I was fortunate to have a true DJ for a dad. I got to see first hand how DJ's work and how they act... it also helps I have my dad's personality (although I look like a clone of my mother).

These are things that are instictive to me, that I actually had to sit down and have someone point them out to me.

Being about being a DJ means you ACT the part, and I don't mean just what you say, or what you look like per say, but it has to be incorporated deep into your subcounsious.

Women, even my women friends, describe me as an extremely sexual person. However, I don't talk about sex. This is what my Ex said about me, all being true:

* I constantly listen to RandB CD's, espically R Kelly, link (go and get it if you have never heard him), 112, and pretty much anything talking about sex. This is not something I decided to go out and start doing, that's all my dad listened to, so natrually it's what I listen to. I mean, I listen to other things, but rarely.

* I always make sure I am dressed clean. I have a nack for expensive clothes, however I try to keep it simple... never sloppy


* I am a compulsive shower taker. I take on average 3 showers a day. I take one when I wake up, right before I go to bed, and anytime I feel "yucky", even if I am not going anywhere, a shower will usually get rid of that feeling. (I also brush my teeth after every meal and before bed) On the same note, I have an extensive collection of colonge (over 20 types).

* My house is always incented with incents (something else I got from my dad) and always spotless. My two younger cousins recently moved in with me (20 and 18) and my house STILL stays clean, even if it is a mess they made, I will clean it up.


* When I talk, I talk slower than the average guy. Not as in Duh slow, but I take my time saying what I have to say. I used to have a high pitched voice (not that high, but higher than I liked) and I have worked on it and it's now deeper than average.

* I know how to have sex. This is something I can honestly say hasn't always been the case... I mean, lol, i had potentioal, but my ex GF, who is 4 years older than me and vastly more experienced, showed me to stop "****ing" her and start "making love" (don't get it twisted, It can get rough, but a passionate rough, if you catch my drift).


* My car stays clean at all times... This is something I picked up from my dad.

Now, all of these things may not seem like much, but once they become a HABIT, part of who you are, not just to try to impress women, but you just do this, I swear you will never have a woman "friend" again, at least not one that you want.

... Imean, how can a woman NOT want to **** you when she comes to a spotless (nicely furnished) house, with R Kelly playing in the background, and you are as clean as can be, looking at her in a sexual manner... I mean, she is a woman.


Oh and STOP MASTERBATING...

It's hard (damn it's hard) but you couldn't grasp how much more sexual of a person you are when you stop wacking off... I don't even take hand jobs.



All of this will help you build your sexuality and in turn will make you more "manily" to women, which in turn makes them more attracted to you.

 

[manuva]

Your habits remind me of a gay friend of mine.

 

[josekortez]

That last comment was worth reading through all the other B.S. in the first part of the thread.:crackup:

 

[Fox800]

I believe it. I keep my car and room clean at all times, and most girls tell me that it's amazing for a 19 year old to do this...apparently I'm a rarity.

 

[backbreaker]

Thanks for the compliment, but this isn't a "tip" this is my life, you don't have to believe it, I really don't give a damn to be honest.

I mean, I am a great person that has alot going for myself. But I am also a very clean person that is unlike most 22 year olds in the fact I can keep a clean house / car / body.

The only thing I was really trying to convey, is that some of you try to make DJing about talking to the girl and figuring out what to say, how to act, etc, when you can say alot more about how you carry yourself. The way I carry myself speaks loud and clear to women and it saves time for me trying to build rapport (espically if I can get them to my house).

My two cousins, who moved in with me 2 months ago, both have said that I have changed their outlook on woman. The older one hangs out with me pretty often and I know first hand woman who he used to have to try to get some from he now has to shake them off with a stick.

DJing is more aobut YOU being the person that you need to be. Like I said, I didn't pick up a book and say "hey, I'm going to do these things"... Keeping myself and my enviroment clean comes naturally. .Dressing nice comes naturally, the only thing that I had to work on really was my voice becuase Id idn't like it.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Hey there Ryan Seacrest.

 

[Holland]

It's bad for your skin if you shower 3 times a day. One time is more then enough, maybe 2 after exercises/sport etc.

 

[Rad]

Being clean is definantly important..but listening to R Kelly?? No thanks

I'd prefer to have some Hendrix playing..Foxxeyy ladyy here I come!

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Originally posted by manuva
Your habits remind me of a gay friend of mine.

Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
Hey there Ryan Seacrest.

:crackup:

 

[Microphone Fiend]

i can see it now....

"I listen to the whole trapped in the closet saga and I get 4 (!!!!) showers a day, but I still dont get laid????"



LMAO....
These tips are a little to specific and random. Saying stay tidy would fare better than "I always havea clean car, my daddy taught my that"


he might get hot girls and stuff, but this post isnt great regardless. maybe he was just bad in exoplaining for this post, cuz i thot he had a post in the HoF or at least reccomended by a few people.

But seriously...
All this post is saying is a be clean and listen/act sexual. And contrary to popular belief, i doubt every womjen will go for the dude who is clean and listening to r kelly.

 

[h2o]

i think it's a good tip nonetheless, and he's just trying to help us out. no need to flame or mock him.

i think basically what he's saying is get your sh*t together and you'll attract girls by default, which is true...though you'll still have to put in extra effort.

i especially like the title though

Originally posted by backbreaker
Don't talk about it... be about it

i think if you don't come away with anything from this post, remember the title. it's similar to "practice what you preach."

 

[Mr. Mystery II]

The best part of this post was the title. You don't need to constantly tell people your getting laid for people to know that you are. In fact most of the guys I know that talk about sex all the time, talk about so much because they are so horny due to not having much sex.

Do what works for you, Backbreaker, don't let us stop you. But being clean will not get you women.

I'm a slob and I don't try to hide it. I used to warn girls not to wear open toe shoes when they get in my car because for all I know I could have mice living it it under all the trash. This probably didn't turn them on, true, but it didn't completely turn them off either...

Mr. Mystery

 

[manuva]

Originally posted by GodsGiftToWomen
I laugh at the keyboard jockeys who mock Backbreaker. Many or most of you may be unaware of the super hot babes that backbreaker gets.

I love that you assume we're kj's because we replied. You also replied... does that make you a kj? Backbreaker WROTE the post, surely that makes him more of a kj than any of us?

Whether he gets hot babes or not doesn't really affect the fact that his actions remind me of a gay friend of mine.

I don't follow such strict hygiene rules, and I get hotbabes all the time too. In fact, more than I can handle. Proper game will make redundant all but the most basic personal hygiene etiquette.

 

[backbreaker]

HOnestly, I really could care less at what some of you could say about me, I know who I am and what works for me.


One poster had it right when he said that if you get your **** together, you attract women by default.

However, I was a little tipsy when I wrote the original post.

This post I believe more geared toward the guy who has problems converting girls he meets=sexual partners.

In other words, you meet a girl, she digs you but as a "friend"... That's a problem I only had with one particular girl in my life, for reasons beyond this post.

It's like a college recruiter... If I can get her to visit the campus, she will commit.

And being "clean" shouldn't be "your thing" or not, it should be mantitory.

To clarify, I usually only take 2 showers a day, one when I wake up, one when I go to sleep, but there are times when I just don't feel right, like after cooking barbeque or messing with any type of cooking grese, then I will take a shower. I don't take 8 showers a day, lol, I have more a life then my bathroom.

(if i was totally sober, this would have been a much, much better post, but oh well)

But about the topic, stop talking about things with women. You are not a woman. You are a man of action that does stuff, like bettering youself. One girl ( here is a pic, i posted it here already a while ago http://www.hola-arkansas.com/uploaded_pictures/26_3.jpg far right, http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/ur_hacked03/detail?.dir=/8c12&.dnm=c73f.jpg&.src=ph right again... btw, the girl on the left is a girl I was bangin in HS that introduced us, looked 10x better then, got on drugs and cigerettes and stopped taking care of herself)

who BTW GodsGiftToWomen I banged for the first time last saturday (long, long story) has this guy who is truely obsessed with her. She used to date his Best Friend, and he stopped being friends with him so he could have a CHANCE to date her. now this guy, by all accounts, is a good looking guy, he is an ambercrombie model, 5"11, very athletic, six pack, the type of guy that should have his way with women.

Now, she told me on numorous occusions how "hot" this guy was, so I am thinking "okay good babe, maybe this is the guy for you"... So she keeps calling me telling me at how he is "changing" and being "nice" to her..

To put a long story short, this guy is the absolute worst AFC I have ever seen. She put me on three way with him one day, because I honestly thought she was lying. He has a naturally deep voice, and it's funny, when he starts talking to her, his voice gets weaker and weaker, like a woman's. He's more emotional then Carl Thomas. He cries, beggs, pledes, He did so much stuff wrong that I am not going to even start to point them out.

What happened? This "hot guy" (and I have seen him, good looking guy) was such a wimp, that Friday night, I specefially TOLD her to go and **** HIM (her and her BF have broken up, not because of This guy, but because he has a problem getting it up and he was a rebound out of a 3 year relationship).

(First, I knew he would blow it, wasn't any question in my mind, secondly, not very often do you hear a guy tell a beautiful girl to go **** another guy)

Nevertheless, she calls me and tells me that she kissed him and grabbed his **** and he started talking about how he wanted to marry her and how much he loved her!

So she called me, mad because she didn't get any, and hasn't had any for 2 months because she was tr ying to be faithful to her BF and he can't get his stuff up. She said "it was like I was kissing a woman!"

So I told her she should have came over my house instead. By the time she get off the phone, I knew I was going to **** her the next day, I had her going. She called me saturday afternoon and told me to "clear my schedule for the night" and she came over my house (hadn't seen her in 6 months)... And the entire time we were going at it, Drew, the stalker guy was blowing up her phone.


I have a tendancy to get off track, i like to share my past experiences, just bare with me. The point is looks can get you in the door, but just becasue you are cut up and have that washboard stomach, doesn't guarantee success.

"It's not only fine feathers that make fine birds" Aesops Fables


I am black if you don't know by now... 5'8, 175ish, around 8-10%BF (still working on that by the day), I have a little money and I am pretty good looking. As a matter of fact, I don't think there are very many guys who look as good as I do to be totally honest, (Ilook alot lot pharell out of the neptunes, bigger and more built, maybe a pinch lighter in the skin). I have always been good looking. But I was horrible with women growing up. It's not the money becuse I am the least flashiest person you will ever see. I like nice clothes, but I don't wear thousands of dollars worth of jewerly.

And just so you know, I am the farthest thing from being gay you will ever see.

Anyway, I have always had nice clothes, even since I was in Elementry school, but like I said, not always successul with women.

What helped me turn the corner with women is the work ethic I established when I started my own company. I don't own it anymore, but i have the same work etheic.

As far as getting women's numbers and crap like that... there is a reason you will never see me post stuff like that or about that, because it's so easy it's trival... work on yourself on a constant basis and they will come flocking. I mean, not literalrly taking numbers to get in line tot alk to you, but you will know they are itnerested, to the point where asking for their number is the least worrisome thing on your mind.

What gets me, is these guys that can get 10-20 numbers, but only have successful dates with 2-3 of them, and think they are DJ's...

If a woman gives you her number, 9 out of 10 times, she is digging you to some extent.

If you don't pull her from there, it's something YOU did wrong.

In other words, it's about quality, not quanity. I don't have to go out and get 10 numbers at the club, I can leave with one and be fine because I know odds are I will be laying the pipe to her in a month or so.

I think that's why some of you don't get what i am saying, because I am assuming you don't have a problem approaching a woman and getting her number. I am assuming she shes you and you are trying to close the deal.

You get a girl in your car on a date, no matter where it is, she should at the very least, think of you in a sexual manner, and that's what I am trying to get to.


GodsGiftToWomen, thanks for taking up for me, but it's not needed, I just try to give back to this board since it has helped me so much. I thought the flame was funny myself... I don't take most of these keyboard jockeies seriously... there are only 3-5 posters on this entire board I would take advice from or even cared if they gave their opinion of me. And trust me, I am not boasting on how much I get... you wouldn't want me to boast (and neither do I, because I am out BEING ABOUT IT, NOT TALKING ABOUT IT, REMEMBER) but I am doing what I set out to do in life, and let's keep it at that.

 

[kiz]

quite an insightful post. i hope to be at that point some day. i've come so far already though, that i know that i will soon enough.

 

[backbreaker]

LOL, by the way, that guy in the middle of the two guys is the guy who can't get it up, just thought that was kinda funny

 

[backbreaker]

lol, I almost forgot, it just so happens that the guy that is stalking the girl I had sex with, found out AROUND 4 HOURS AGO that a girl he had a one night stand with a while back, had his kid earlier today. Until today he didn't even know she was pregnant.