1.) Jophil could not be more correct. Talking to females about why they act how they do leads you to a few conclusions. My sisters friends and my female friend schooled me in to the fact that women intentionally play hard to get (never calling a guy) and other things to feel good about themselves, raise their value, protect themselves, and to test the guy. Some women do this to because they have been humped and dumped in the past and want to see if this guy is going to stick around for more than sex. Some do it because they think that by making a guy chase them they are somehow raising their value. This is a very commonly promoted and very wrong notion among women. They are projecting the psyche of a women onto men. Not all women do this but many do. This type of women is a game player.
2.) Other women are a hot bed of emotions and really don’t know why they do what they do. I was talking to a female that is a mutual friend of mine. Talking to a chick about relationships opens your eyes to the fact that many women make decisions based on a whim. When women have power they abuse it. Actually when people (man or woman) have power they abuse it. This female friend expressed to me that she would play games with men even after having sex with them. She stated that she would cut them off permanently for no reason other than to feel powerful again. She was on the rebound after a nasty breakup. The most stunning thing she said was that often nothing was wrong with these guys. She just liked the power to manipulate guys. She even admitted that she would play around with guys for no substantial reason at all other than she could. She feels bad for what she did looking back on it. Women like this (esp the artsy types) just often have no real justification for what they do. They just feel and act.
Don’t take it personal with these types. There is no good reason why she dumps good men, they just do because of the power.
3.) The third group of women are the type of women who are genuinely not interested in the guy but don’t know why. Every girl has had a guy who was Mr.Perfect on paper, who even exhibit alpha traits but just didn’t do it for her. This afc vs. alpha stuff should not be taken to the extreme. You can still be a lame, possessive, abusive afc and beat out a guy who is an alpha. This because we often forget many woman just have to feel a random connection with a guy. This could be and many times is based on nothing more than some random way she feels about some random guy. Its not based on S***. Many of the guys chicks are in love with don’t have many “alpha” or “jerk” qualities. Half the time the guy is not even good looking. Its totally random for many chicks. Many times these chicks are left wondering why they don’t feel it for Mr.Perfect. Its not that Mr.Perfect was an AFC either its just that he was not the guy her brain chemistry said to become deeply infatuated with.
Do not confuse this with a girl thinking you’re a hot and having sex with you. A girl having sex with you is not random or capricious it is based on certain physical and behavioral cues. A girl deciding to keep you around for the long term and being head over heels “in love” with you is unpredictable and random. A women can have sex with you for a week and not be infatuated with you in the least. She will then be able to dump you at any time with no real emotional investment.
Either way, the reasons behind the action is irrelevant. The point is you next her for now. Like the other posters say, just move on to new women. As men, we fall into the trap of thinking there is something wrong with us. For most socially well adjusted men, the problem is not them. You can be a perfectly cool dude and this could happen…a lot. We should not take it personally, because its not. This is why you should only spend your time on highly interested chick who exhibit good behaivor. If shes sending mixed signals move on to the next one. Spin a lot of plates until you find the one that is for no reason infatuated with you.
