"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't Put Women on a Pedestal

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Night-hawk

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The problem is, many guys will not even know they are putting a girl on a pedestal. Even those who understand the theory of pedestalizing women, they have not internized it enough. Therefore you have guys who are unable to recognize themselves doing it or to distinguish the concept from reality when a woman is behaving in response to it. They will rationalize that their situation is different. This is why you see guys tolerating things from women with the idea they are being indifferent (but really they do mind), or when they fantasize about her and how she stands above other women in looks, and because they get rushed with thought and accompanying emotion over her they ignore the fact they are placing her in pedestal zone, and as long as they rationalize that it is worth it, as long as she reciprocates, they will keep that little gremlin in their mind telling them ' don't mess up'. That's why I (we) stress that you MUST own the frame the beginning, that way you desensitize yourself from her and create real indifference while screening her and getting to know her. You want women to earn your value. No, want to earn your value. In turn, a woman will want to give you value in hopes of gaining yours.
 
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