don't 'next' experinext

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
By nexting quickly you run the risk of nexting a nice girl.

Ya know Kevin, I USED TO think like that as well. But then I learned about IL level. You see, if a girl REALLY, REALLY likes you, EVEN if she is shy, she will uncounsciencely break down walls extremely quickly and open up right away.

I spent alot of time with shy girls with 5-6 IL range. Sure, I eventually broke them down, but it was alot of wasted time and effort. If the girl has 8-9 IL, even if she is shy, she will come out of her shell, sometimes dramatically, if she really digs you. We have all seen the "nice" girl fall like a ton of bricks over the DJ type guy ridiculously fast. Thats because of High IL

Pecker, suit yourself. It doesn't take alot of time to CA. I can bust 5 out in 20-30 minutes. Do that 3 days a week, there is your 15 CA's. If you can't afford 20 minutes a day 3 days a week, well, join the priesthood, LOL. Its up to you.

 

[violator]

You have actually hit on an important point that is often overlooked with respect to guaging IL. That is sometimes a girl will defy conventional wisdom and not respond in a way we would consider to be normal if she had high IL. As the result, we next on the assumption that she has low interest when in fact it can be quite the contrary.

She may be shy or may have self esteem problems. Or maybe she has trust issues and has built up her walls so high that it takes much longer for her to respond than a girl with none of these problems. That is why trying to figure a girls IL can be very tricky and illusive.

No doubt, I have nexted girls prematurely for having mistaken their shyness or trust issues for low IL. And in the process have missed out on potentially satisfying relationships. But, unless you are a trained psychologist able to figure out women all of the time, these things are going to happen if you keeping on nexting when the girl does not respond according to plan.

So I agree with the premise that unless she is a total flake and is not giving you the light of day, why not keep the low/medium IL girls in the backburner for the time being while you go about dating the non-problematic high IL girls because you never know when the seemingly low IL girl will come out of her shell and give you everything you desire.

 

[SamePendo]

Experinexting sounds great, for sex-getters (also could be refered as Players) and newbies.
When I was a niceguy, I used bad advice, and ended up doing things with women that made me a niceguy. Saying hi to women, was when I stepped into this outer world of DJness. Why hadnt I thought about this before? It all fell down to its place. But the path to becoming what we call a DJ wasnt flawless. I made several mistakes. Through these mistakes I learnt how women thought, how they viewed the world.

Experinexting is great, it will help DJs-in-progress to keep the aloofnes, thus, staying away from breaking their heart.
Sex-getters as well as DJs know how women work.
Sex-getters will find experinexting extremely useful. It will get them gain practice. They will know how to (attack) different types of women. How to seduce the shy girl, how to seduce the sorrority girl, the cheerleader, the nerd, the Single mom, the attention ***** (Sexy M.), etc.

But us DJs, the ones who search LTRs wont be needing experinexting. We allready know how women work. We find a woman that interests us, and we work on her, with our natural, unique, charm. If it doesnt work, she isnt for us, and we keep climbing through life. And wait for the next girl that impresses us, to see if she is that impressive.
I hope I made my point clear (my point is S_M is a attention *****! )

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
Ya know Kevin, I USED TO think like that as well. But then I learned about IL level. You see, if a girl REALLY, REALLY likes you, EVEN if she is shy, she will uncounsciencely break down walls extremely quickly and open up right away.

I spent alot of time with shy girls with 5-6 IL range. Sure, I eventually broke them down, but it was alot of wasted time and effort. If the girl has 8-9 IL, even if she is shy, she will come out of her shell, sometimes dramatically, if she really digs you. We have all seen the "nice" girl fall like a ton of bricks over the DJ type guy ridiculously fast. Thats because of High IL

Pecker, suit yourself. It doesn't take alot of time to CA. I can bust 5 out in 20-30 minutes. Do that 3 days a week, there is your 15 CA's. If you can't afford 20 minutes a day 3 days a week, well, join the priesthood, LOL. Its up to you.

this is true. it isn't good to waste too much time on a shy girl. It really doesn't take much effort to win a girl over once she realizes you are a ladies man. all i'm saying is that you can't just take a girl out once and next her if she doesn't go down on you.
You have to give a girl at least 2-3 weeks before you next her. That's a few phone calls and about 2-3 dates and that's about it.

2-3 weeks is best for just about every girl. the last thing you want to do is next a girl when she is on her rag. You have remember that girls go through different emotional issues every week of the month. The key is to hit on them during the right time