"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So this HB8.5 I was seeing a little bit.. Things hit sour. In the least amount I can right to give you the story, Here I go. We talked a decent amount on the phone and text whatever. I had intrest in her so I might have talked to her more than I did with the other girls. But so she asked me to our school dance, Sign that she had a thing going for me. She said she was enjoying getting to know me. People at her work said all she did was talk about me, Text the owner of my gym asking if I was working. She would say things on how she was nervous to ask me out or hang out.

Dance sucked, She was crabby all night and was very quiet and we didnt dance much. Whatever; Afterwards the night went sour and I drove her home. later get story that her Dad was upset with her and that when things don't go her ways she gets pissed and ruins her night(from her sister).

I stopped talking to her and she constantly bombards my buddy in her class asking questions like " Is bearfan pissed at me? Why doesnt bearfan talk to much anymore. Did Bearfan drink after the dance? Where did you guys go?"

**** like that. I told her yesterday that I had to talk to her soon and she said ok. She again asked my friend in class "What the hell was that? What does he want to talk to me about. I don't want a boyfriend". Etc.

Now I'm confused on where to go with this. My buddy asked her if it's a problem of her liking me she said it wasnt that.. It was the fact that we only hung out once. Which is true and it makes it difficult I guess because the attraction is already there.

People think it's just poor communication on both of our parts, and that she wants me to ask her to hang sometime, and I'm just not asking her becuase I don't know her intrest level. It's confusing and too be honest I've never been on a Hot-Cold type of situation before lol.

Do I think she's playing games? Yeah I did. My buddy also did until she asked him all those questions. What you guys think I should do? I'm not too used too being under the spotlight here but I want to get this figured out cause it's bothering the hell out of me. lol
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I told her I'd call her yesterday and I've yet to do it. Mostly cause I'm nervous; which is'nt something I've been use too lately. Today again she went up to my buddy and goes " What the hell was bearfan going to talk to me about? He said he was going to call me yesterday blah blah blah". My buddy got sick of being her messenger and said "I dont want to talk about it". She goes "WELL I DO" I guess she then right after said soemthing like "No wait forget it. I dont either"

Such a weird situation for me.
 

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Yeah bearfan, she sounds like a negative person. That's not really someone you want around you dragging you down is it? I don't care how hot the b1tch is - I just got out of a thing with a chronically negative person. It was mind numbing. I was in her reality and I didn't even realize it.

Stop calling her. Move on. Let her chase you. Fvck the hor and get your balls back.
 

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Mind_Body_Soul said:
Yeah bearfan, she sounds like a negative person. That's not really someone you want around you dragging you down is it? I don't care how hot the b1tch is - I just got out of a thing with a chronically negative person. It was mind numbing. I was in her reality and I didn't even realize it.

Stop calling her. Move on. Let her chase you. Fvck the hor and get your balls back.
Yeah man I think your right. I can't stand negativity and I don't know why she got like this. And yes shes a really hot girl. Some people at my school have said she is the most gorgeous in our whole school. I can't say I disagree. I just take offense that shes had boyfriends in the past, and I somehow can't get to that level. I don't know; I just don't like not being able to do things. I don't want a girlfriend but it would've been cool to at least get with her lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Come on!!!!! She wants you - why all the drama and hesitation and heresay from others????? Talk to her and quit the drama!!!!

You don't have to be her "b/f" - hors today open their legs even without such a haughty title and illegitimate status!!!!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Come on!!!!! She wants you - why all the drama and hesitation and heresay from others????? Talk to her and quit the drama!!!!

You don't have to be her "b/f" - hors today open their legs even without such a haughty title and illegitimate status!!!!

I pretty much gave it up man. I called her yesterday and I couldnt call anyone cause I was at my friends college and they were sleeping. So I texted her saying How I called her. She said she got it. Pretty much I said "I wanted to talk to you about why we're not talking anymore". Her reply??

"Oh, Ok".

Havent heard from her sense and don't give a ****
 
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