Don't let a woman use you as an intimacy surrogate

[STR8UP]

good call.

That is why plate spinning is the most effective method to use when you are dating in this world for a man. When you date multiple women you have a choice of what to put up with and what not. If a woman starts to act out or not put out then as a man you don't have to accept that behaviour. You will just end up spending more time with the other girls and less time with her. If she comes around as a result of you spinning more plates and not kissing her ass then great, if not then she will be replaced by another plate.

There is definitely merit to that theory, and it's the absolute BEST way to keep yourself comfortably distant, but it just isn't always practical.

If you can become completely independent WITHOUT having to rely on the attention or affection of another female, THEN you have it.

 

[STR8UP]

The reality in today's world and generation of today's women is that it doesn't really matter. If we are using ponds to illustrated women then most ponds today don't advertise or have signs that say "private property keep out". Women today play the field to perfection and often trade up when the right guy comes along with out him knowing that this woman is already seeing someone. Then she goes back to her current man tells him its over between them because he never satisfied her. I was blind to this reality until I started to date many women and understand the situation.

:yes:

Limit yourself to "single" women and you are throwing away 75% of your opportunities.

 

[MatureDJ]

I don't think that the 3 date rule needs to be strictly enforced, but steady progress needs to be made, and at some time a man needs to lay the law down and demand it. How long really depends on the internal purity of the woman - something that can be discerned carefully. And as for a virgin, I could even see not demanding it until marriage (actually, I would be thrilled to marry a virgin that was very interested in me.) For a woman that has been married (or cohabitated), there should be absolutely no reason to wait more than a few months. And good fellatio could substitute for coitus, especially for a woman that would not be on the pill.

Of course, women can deceive, so a good BS detector would be essential.

 

[decades]

don't be an intellectual hor or cuddle buddy. (cliff notes)

 

[Latinoman]

:yes:

Limit yourself to "single" women and you are throwing away 75% of your opportunities.

You still have 25%.

If you go with women that are "taken"...do so at your own risk. The issue here is that VERY few men know how to deal with this. Most get caught.

 

[itishe]

What do you guys do about virgins/self-concious girls and getting the opportunity to put your weiner inside of her pee-pee hole?

This one chick I've been seeing for about 2 months (virgin) wouldn't give it up, so I went back to banging my ex without her knowing. I figure she kind of had it coming.

 

[decades]

mature men don't say wiener and pee pee hole. we say penis and pee pee hole.