"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's this girl, not gonna describe her in detail, but she's asian, and I want her :p
Anyway, she likes me, I'm 100% on that. I like her too, but this is pissing me off. So, all we really do is flirt during one class, and that's it. In times where I feel like our 'relationship' is peaking attraction-wise, she does this thing where she's on AIM or something, and she asks this:
Who do you like?
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Now I've read enough to know that I'm not supposed to tell women I like them....But then she goes
I'll tell you who I like if you tell me first.
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Which is 6th grade BS...But the thing is, she seems like she's almost hesitant to go anywhere with me...everytime I say anything remote to "wanna go ____" she just totally avoids it...

Maybe she wants to confirm I like her or something before hand?

I don't know, please wise council help me out here. Do I tell her?
I don't want it to turn into a "I like you", "I like you too", "Cool...", "*Yeah, I'm unattracted to you now you AFC*"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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YOu should had said "I like my mom", tell her you like pamela anderson, tell he you like micheal jackson, dont tell her you like her, unless she will reward you with sex.
 
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^ dude I have no problem with being ****y and funny like that......but thats not what this is about. I have given her a number of sarcastic comebacks to that question before, but she persists so much that im thinking she genuinely wants me to tell her I like her
 
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Dude, just verbalize your thoughts and stop guessing: you want me to pick you eh? Well you gotta do something special for me first ;)

something like that
 
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She's insecure and hasn't done this a heck of a lot.

Her - "Who do you like?"
You - "Guess!"
Her - ".."
Her - "Do you like.....me?"
You - "I only like people that like me back, do you like me"
Her - *hesitation*. "maybe........."
You - "Well, I guess I maybe like you then!"
"..."

Someone finish this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Docs said:
She's insecure and hasn't done this a heck of a lot.

Her - "Who do you like?"
You - "Guess!"
Her - ".."
Her - "Do you like.....me?"
You - "I only like people that like me back, do you like me"
Her - *hesitation*. "maybe........."
You - "Well, I guess I maybe like you then!"
"..."

Someone finish this.
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Alright the insecure thing makes perfect sense.

BUT, there's still my problem with the awkward thing. I've done this before a while ago with a different girl. It pretty much went how your example conversation went......and we just stopped knowing what to say to eachother.
 
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lull, dunno what to say...
You: "I think you like me!"

(it'd be bluntly obvisous if you both keep avoiding saying it)

I called out a girl on liking me today, I told her she needed a hobby, she said that she didn't need any more hoobies, and I said more then drinking and thinking of me? :p

Yeah, a few minutes later.
Me: So what do you think about with me?
Her: I'm not telling you!!
Me: I promise I won't laugh at you!!
Her: But it's embrassing!!!

I so have her :rolleyes:
 
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Start off C&F or whatever...the point is tho, at the end of the day u need to be makin some kind of connection or ideas in her head. U cant get someone to fall for you on C&F alone...show u got a side that she will be interested in (and might be interested in her)

(This is just random BS i was typin so u can disregard it, lol, C&F with no real substance)

Her: who do you like
You: I like you.
Her: really?
You: Yes...my feelings for you are like diarhea, i cant hold them in (credit that funny FR)
Her: lol
You: Im serious, I love you!!!!!!!!Im currently touching myself inappropriately to some of the hair I stole from your brush!!!111
her: WOW
You: Lol...why do you want to know...Am I on your mind that much? Damn my magnetic personality :(
Her: lol, no its just...
You: STOPPPP......just....stop....
Her: ?
You: You......had me at hello
Her: thank you Jerry Maguire
You: SHOW ME THE MONEY
her: lol
You: Aite but seriously back to the part about you liking me
Her: I never said that
You: yea I know but why would you want to know my status unless you got some hot friends who want to make me the lucky guy in a threesome...
Her: (whatever the fvck she says Im tired of writin this convo)
 
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Okay. I think I should stop being a ***** and tell her...but if it goes like this:

Her: blah blah blah blah Who do you like?
Me: blah blah blah You.
Her: blah blah really? I like you too.



Then what should I do from there?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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WOW, just WOW...

At this point, just be straight with her. Tell her that you are interested in her, and you would like to go out. Simple, and to the point. She's not like other girls that SoSuave prepares AFCs for...
 
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Then what should I do from there?

Umm, I think you need to take Fitch's advice, and read some of that Don Juan Bible. It'll be good for the heart.
 
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I have read the Don Juan Bible...but as I mentioned before she's hesitant to go out with me for some reason.

So I should be like:

ME: Blah blah I like you
HER: blah blah I like you too
ME: Well...as friends (to shock/scare her)
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ME: blah Okay well more than friends blah blah
HER: blah blah
ME: ___________????

do I ask her out or something
 
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You don't need to beat a dead rat. There's no point telling me what you should be like, because that sucks as well.

What you should be doing, is thinking of the way you are going to get her, not how you're going to go about the subject.
 
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her: "who do you like"
you: "depends, lets go to [place] this weekend and we'll see"

winner?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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