Dont know what to do?

[Begin2Live]

Meet my neighboor, was interested in her and asked her for her number and if she would want to get dinner. She said yes. The next day she knocked on my door and invited me to the movies with her cousin and her bf. Everything seemed ok. We go on our first real date a few days latter...dinner and movie at my place...leads to kissing, making out, grope. I've been very busy at work and tried calling yesterday...she texts me "shes sorry she left phone in the car and missed my call" this is at midnight. I think she had a party too. Dont know if shes really interested anymore. Should I just ask her?

 

[SoldMySoul]

Meet my neighboor, was interested in her and asked her for her number and if she would want to get dinner. She said yes. The next day she knocked on my door and invited me to the movies with her cousin and her bf. Everything seemed ok. We go on our first real date a few days latter...dinner and movie at my place...leads to kissing, making out, grope. I've been very busy at work and tried calling yesterday...she texts me "shes sorry she left phone in the car and missed my call" this is at midnight. I think she had a party too. Dont know if shes really interested anymore. Should I just ask her?

Should you ask her? Hell no!!!! Actions show interest and everything else is bvll$hit! You back off and see what happens. I left my phone in the car***************** uh, yeah!!! I never buy that.

You called last and she responds with a measly text. Now she must call you or game over!!!

If you do make it to your "first date" I would keep it very simple and try to gauge her interest level more. Sounds like she is the typical game playing woman.

It is funny, sometimes we play games with ourselves wondering if she is interested and the answer is sitting there staring you right in the face. I have started new with if I do not feel interest, then she either is hiding it or not in to me. That hiding mess must be rectified awful soon and the other is a waste of my time.

 

[Begin2Live]

Thanks appreciate it...will do.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Anytime I hear an excuse like left my phone in the car, I am on the defense!! Ask yourself this: When out, do you see how many women have phone and use them as a crutch like it was an appendage they were born with????? They always have their phone glued to them.

She didn't answer because of something else and you know it. Give it time and the true answer will be apparent whether positive or negative.

 

[jophil28]

She didn't answer because of something else and you know it. Give it time and the true answer will be apparent whether positive or negative.

Yes, her true interest level will be revealed if you do nothing. She was banging on your door to ask you out last time. If her IL has gone up she will do something similar. If it has gone down, she will go silent or she will make excuses.
Just sit tight and wait her out.

OH, and never go on group dates until you have slept with her several times.

 

[Atom Smasher]

My sig says it all.

 

[squirrels]

Are you into her?

Then stop screwing around. Make an effort to see her. If she doesn't make an equivalent effort to see you, then find a girl who WILL.

It's this passive crap that allows women to get away with the crap they get away with. If you let her, she will keep you strung along forever, always having you there as a "backup plan" while she looks for some epic Prince Charming stud to sweep her off her feet.

You want to get in her panties, then go after her. If she starts f*cking around, call her BS. If she still f*cks around, cut her off. Go after some younger women, who don't insist on playing this adversarial "dating game".

 

[teacha]

Should you ask her? Hell no!!!! Actions show interest and everything else is bvll$hit! You back off and see what happens. I left my phone in the car***************** uh, yeah!!! I never buy that.

You called last and she responds with a measly text. Now she must call you or game over!!!

Stop giving the guy bad advice.

A woman responding a call with a text is not a sign of low interest, i dunno were you got that from saying it is. Some of you guys overcomplicate simple things and end up cvckblocking yourselves just because of your massive egos.

If you do make it to your "first date" I would keep it very simple and try to gauge her interest level more. Sounds like she is the typical game playing woman.

Why would anyone spend their time looking for IOI? that's just a waste of time and energy, women are the ones that's supposed to be doing that not men....besides some women won't show any signs of interest until they are sure that the guy likes them.

OP just go for what you want and stop analysing silly stuff like this.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Teacha,
"Stop giving the guy bad advice."sorry mate my money as usual is on Squirrels.

 

[1 Bad Dude]

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tried calling yesterday...she texts me "shes sorry she left phone in the car and missed my call" this is at midnight.

And you didn't immediately text with "I'm home now, come over and watch some tv with me." She either will or she won't. If she does, then escalate.

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Dont know if shes really interested anymore. Should I just ask her?

Like others have said, don't ask if they(girls) are interested. Ever. Ask them to do something with you. If they do, they're interested.

 

[countermart]

You should just ask her out. Don't read so much into what is going on, just go for it and crash through, or crash.

Do not try and closely analyse something that is often illogical...women. We all know to look at what she does, not at what she says...

If she says yes to a date, she may like you and you can be almost certain of that for, oh, at least the next five minutes, and then she may change her mind. Then again she may hate you for the next five minutes and then change her mind and like you...mix an repeat.

Don't worry about the outcome, don't care, and just go for it.

Countermart.

 

[Begin2Live]

I think there is power in walking away...i'll chill for a bit...my job keeps me very busy and she knows that... When I get closer to my days off I'll just call her and ask her out and feel her out. Shes 19, Im 28 so shes already young. Usually the younger girls play the most games. (Am I in to her?) Yes just that she acts likes shes scarce and highly sought after in my small town...but I'm also scarce and at the top of the food chain here. Thanks for all your help

 

[SoldMySoul]

Stop giving the guy bad advice.

Well if you consider what I told the OP bad advice, that is your opinion. Ego has nothing to with common sense. Common sense being that ACTIONS speak all you need to know.

What makes more sense Teacha out of the following: I tell you I am going to give you a million dollars or I actually give you a million dollars? That is the same principle to use in relationships! Period!!!

If a woman is not interested why would you waste time with her? You wouldn't! What you would do is what was required to let her know your initial interest and she should be reciprocating.

Funny how the advice I gave worked yesterday for me. I backed off after showing initial interest because she was playing the push and pull. Guess what happened? You guessed it!!! Her interest manifested as she called me and discussed another date.

My advice was not out of bounds or deceptive, it was fundamental to stop any sort of game and weed out the ones playing it. END OF STORY!

Dear Teacha,
"Stop giving the guy bad advice."sorry mate my money as usual is on Squirrels.

Scar, he was telling me that and yes Squirrels is solid!

 

[terran2k]

you live in a house or apartment? if it's your house, i suggest you dont get involved with a neighbour. she'll have constant surveillance of you. if things go south, you'll have to deal with her womanly BS as long as you live there. if it's an apartment, well at least you can move.

 

[SoldMySoul]

you live in a house or apartment? if it's your house, i suggest you dont get involved with a neighbour. she'll have constant surveillance of you. if things go south, you'll have to deal with her womanly BS as long as you live there. if it's an apartment, well at least you can move.

This is very true as well. You never eat and $hit in the same place. If things go bad and you try bringing new women over, the neighbor could sabotage everything you attempt to do.

 

[thedude4242]

it seemed like she was interested. she invited you to the movies with her cousin and her boyfriend. than she went on a date with you and you kissed. then she tells you she is sorry for not getting back to you. dont do anything stupit. ask her out again.

DO NOT ASK A GIRL IF SHE IS INTERESTED IN YOU. ASSUME THAT SHE IS. ASK HER OUT. DONT ASK HER ANYTHING ABOUT, DO YOU LIKE ME, ARE YOU INTERESTED IN ME. DO NOT BRING UP ANY OF THE TOPICS.

 

[Begin2Live]

you live in a house or apartment? if it's your house, i suggest you dont get involved with a neighbour. she'll have constant surveillance of you. if things go south, you'll have to deal with her womanly BS as long as you live there. if it's an apartment, well at least you can move.

Yeah I live in an apartment. Its a very small town. I'm willing to meet a girl anywhere. I also go out of town a few times a month and have meet women there so I wouldnt be bringing to many women to my place. Im not going to be meeting many local girls.

 

[joe henny]

Homie you all ready effed up by making a whole thread dedicated to one b1tch what kind of man goes to piece over one b1tch he aint fvcked yet?! Hell no fvck a neighbor if she calls she calls in the mean time get other females instead of wasting time chasing one.