"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don't know what to do

WingHead

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OK, so I was in my computer class today when all of a sudden in walks this gorgeous blond girl. She was accompanied by another girl, and I heard them say they needed the teacher to help them edit a song, or something like that. So she was in there for about the last fifteen minutes of class, near the teacher's desk while he showed them a bunch of stuff, (don't know what).

Well, the whole time I couldn't take my eyes off her. We met eyes about five times...whenever she looked back into mine I couldn't help but avert my glance. Didn't know if she thought I was cute, or just happened to be looking around or what...

So, here's the deal -- How should I approach her, and what should I say? I've never talked to her before.


I don't know if she'll be in there tomorrow or not, but I hope so, because other than when she comes to the computer room I never see her. And if she IS gonna be in there tomorrow, I'm gonna need help fast so I can know what to do before I never see her again. :crazy:

Sorry if this is long, thank you for reading.

--WingHead

PS: I'm pretty sure she's a cheerleader, because I think I remember seeing her performing at assemblies and stuff. [I only add this because I don't know if you'll suggest I talk to her at one of the football games--if that's even possible--or something.]
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FirstInstinct

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First of all - frame control. You ARE the ****, you ARE the prize, SHE should be chasing YOU. Believe this beyond a shadow of a doubt to be unequivocally true. What you say is around 60/40 or even 70/30 delivery/what is said. If you KNOW you are the man, not think, not doubt, KNOW you are the man, she will pick up on it faster than you can get a boner from her.

Second. What to say. Who gives a ****? Be ****y+funny.

"Back again? What, too lazy to edit songs yourself? :p"

crack a smile, maintain eye contact (hold it, damnit, don't stare like a psychopath, but make sure you KEEP EYE CONTACT, this shows you have confidence in yourself and are not easily intimidated). Show that you are joking, so she doesn't think you're an ass or w/e and keep the tone light.

Base the conversation off that, or if you can think of something better. ****, even a simple "hello" will do. Trust me. Again, 70/30 rule.

And whatever you do, NEVER, EVER over-analyze, or pre-plan. Why? Well, what happens if the whole situation doesn't go according to plan? Your brain ****s up, you panic, and you begin to show signs of insecurity, 'cause you just lost your game plan. Go in with nothing, and there is nothing to lose. Just be natural, have some faith in yourself, go out there, get results.

End of story.
 

intrextrovert

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Maintain eye contact until she looks away. If it gets a bit long, make some offhand comment, "so you just gonna keep starin at me?" or something, whatever seems good at the time.
 

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My friend and I hang out in the hallway outside the computer class, so we're just gonna casually hang out and talk, and when she comes out I'm just gonna make eye contact and say "hey." She'll most likely say hey back, so then I can say "You new here? I've never seen you before." And then I'll just introduce myself, and go from there. That's good, right? :)

Thanks for the replies, by the way. :flowers:
 

jeffthechef

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eh pretty good..you've only got two posts so i assume you're new...
well i'm in the comp lab at mys chool doing hwk a lot..and girls i find attractive are always in there...especially one i'm after keeps coming back every day..before i would plan the night before for a while..trying to figure every single move and situation..DON'T

you're wasting your time..99.5% of the time it won't work out the way you plan in..you'll either get scared, freeze when the moment comes, or she never even shows up

the best way to start handling these types of situations is to get the dj mindset rather than take each situation as it comes
If you have the mindset..you'll be able to attempt more because you can simply approach...if you wait for a certain girl and plan the night after seeing her for the next day, you'll get fewer attempts because you're busy planning.

things usually happen when you have a orgasm of spontaneity. for me, i usually feel extraordinary on fridays, towards the afternoon when you're almost done with school and you see that lady you've always had your eye on..and BAM you approach and get her...

get the mindset and philosophy of it all then go out and work it :rock:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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