Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Don't know what to do...Feelings changed

baurman

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Alright my friend is seeing this girl who went on vacation. I went with her because she is friends with this girl that I liked. When I got there the girl that I liked, kept bringing a GUY around. so I was like F' this! and I didn't really talk to her. And then she wondered why I wasn't talking to her and would ask if I'm mad at her, etc. But as the days went on, the girl who I went up there with (my friends girl) we made out and she let me finger her and she rubbed my d!ck and everything. I kinda developed feelings for her. She told me that she wants t o break up with my friend and she will. I was just wondering, should I go for her or what? I really want to bang her, but I'm unsure how to approach it. Should I tell her that I have developed feelings for her? It's weird because I would talk to her about how I like the girl that I was visiting and now a ll of a sudden I' m liking this girl.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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drtk

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Bros before ho's.

Never forget this.
 

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Yea man, I got messed up in a situation similar to this:

My friend was bangin this girl last year. Then somehow magically this year I somehow started banging her. It was fun an all but we didn'tw ant my friend to find out so we kept it secret. After a wihle I just said f*ck this, bros before hoes and got rid of her. You should do the same before its too late.
 

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True. Bros before Hos, but I guess that's where the problem is. He's not really my "bro". He's ****blocked me many times before and has ****ed a girl that I liked before. And when I was about to take a girl home, he begged his friend to please not let me take her home.
 

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I won't even go into the whole bros before hoes things because that's your call to make.

As far as the woman is concerned, expressing your feelings to her is probably not a great choice in this situation.

Especially because once she knows she has you, chances are she will revert back to her ex and blow your spot up totally. You'll lose on all ends.. her and your friend.

It seems to me like this chick is thriving off the excitement of getting with one of her BF's friends. She is clearly not relationship material ATM.

If I were you I would just go with the flow. Let things happen and let her approach you about these feelings. If she asks what you think about it, tell her that your happy with the current situation and you're just two adults having fun together for now.

Are you going to tell your friend when you get back? That'd be a stand up thing to do right away. I never tell women other women that I've slept with, but I would tell a friend if I was hooking up with his girl (not sure if I'd do that in the first place anyways).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon

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baurman said:
Alright my friend is seeing this girl who went on vacation. I went with her because she is friends with this girl that I liked. When I got there the girl that I liked, kept bringing a GUY around. so I was like F' this! and I didn't really talk to her. And then she wondered why I wasn't talking to her and would ask if I'm mad at her, etc. But as the days went on, the girl who I went up there with (my friends girl) we made out and she let me finger her and she rubbed my d!ck and everything. I kinda developed feelings for her. She told me that she wants t o break up with my friend and she will. I was just wondering, should I go for her or what? I really want to bang her, but I'm unsure how to approach it. Should I tell her that I have developed feelings for her? It's weird because I would talk to her about how I like the girl that I was visiting and now a ll of a sudden I' m liking this girl.

She is a ho... and as usual your friend thinks she is his girl and you are gonna F her (even though ur friend is "with her") and then you gonna catch feeling for her too...lol... Then she gonna dis both of you for bein AFCs..
 

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Thanks guys for making me realize, What the **** am I thinking? Tell her how I feel? Haha. That is totally AFC. She does know how I feel just by giving her "the look" and whatever. If I stop contacting her, She'll probably wonder "I wonder if he still likes me..?" and probably try to contact me. I'll just go with the flow day by day. I won't contact her. I'm a mystery now, and I feel that's the best way to play this. BTW, This guy is not truly my friend so IDGAF, he's screwed me so many times before. I don't know why I have feelings for this girl now though but I'm sure it will go away if I don't talk to her for 3-4 days. On the other hand, She might still have feelings for me so thats where things might be different. All my goal really is though, is to bang her. I don't want a relationship with her. I think SHE might be looking for a relationship though. Because she used tot ell me all the problems she had with her BF and how she wants to leave him and find someone that would treat her better. And I'd all tell her like Oh yeah I'm not a playa, etc. That's what I think got her to kinda like me . Cause she's seeing me as the guy she potentially wants to be with.
 

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Its clear that your friend means nothing to you and is a c0ck blocker so keep fvcking this chick and get rid of your garbage c0ck blocking friend.

Simple.
 
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