Don't know what I Should do about This Situation

[sesshoDevrim]

I keep feeling like I should try again, but I feel as though the best thing to do is just leave it where it is now and just move on. I just need some thoughts on this whole situation.

So I have been going out with chick for about 2-3 months now. She comes over to my place, we chill have a good time, go out grab a bite to eat (she pays for herself, in fact she insists on paying for all of her things herself), and maybe go to the movies. Well this weekend she came over and we went to one of my friends parties. We both got pretty drunk and I took her back to my place. We were makin out for a bit when she *sighs* and then proceeds to tell me that she doesn’t want to ruin our relationship and that we should stay friends.

Now here is where my biggest mistake was, I listened to what she said and I didn’t proceed to go any further. I just kind of sat there dumbfounded thinking, “Should I go for it, or will she just kick me in the balls and walk out?” I’m just trying to figure out whether her interest level was there and she was testing me, maybe I just messed up and she lost interest, or is she just not seriously interested in me? There is just too many a thought going on in my head and it’s starting to bother me. Sounds a lot like I got oneitis haha, but what are everyone’s thoughts on this. Should I just move on, or go at it one more time to see if she was just messing with me?

 

[Papo 12]

Yeah, these situations can suck.

I'd pull away, let her contact you. If you decide to go out with her, try to make it a group setting so you can talk to other girls and maybe even find one that actually sees you more than a friend.

 

[Chipleader]

You are friendzoned and therefore its game over. Heres what you do:

1) Go no contact. At worst the time will allow you to get over her once and for all. At best it will short circuit her female wiring and she might get interested. This is a long shot though and I am not hopeful. Some people on here will claim no contact can do this though.

2) Learn from the experience

 

[sesshoDevrim]

thanks for the reply guys. I really just feel its best to cut communication with her. I've had a situation almost like this one happen to me in HS. Where this girl told me that she cared about me. We would hang out a lot, make out and do all kinds of kinky stuff (but not sex =/). Whenever we got pass the foreplay and got to that point, where what I thought was going to lead to sex. She would stop me right there and tell me she cared about me too much to have sex. Not even a year later she calls me up telling me stories about how she fvcked this guy at a party right in front of everyone. How she did anal with like 3 dudes. **** still hurts thinkin about it...

Greatest years of my life I tell ya....

I have a feeling this is exactly whats going to end up happening and I just don't want to deal with something like that again. There has got to be women out there better than this...

 

[Cherokee]

No contact only works if there is enough investment on behalf of the female.

The fact that she said this after 2/3 months of dating simply means she wasn't "feeling it" so to speak.

Feeling it, is woman tongue for "emotional roller coaster". Women love the energy and tension to always be there. They thrive off this.

Make them feel happy, go on incredible adventures (Anything from a meal in the craziest restaurant in town or a road trip to someplace shes never been... or even go swimming in a lake! INSPIRATION) , take them with you and lead the way. Women want to always feel inspired by their man.

Defo try no contact for the time being, anything else will make you look insecure right now. In the next few weeks, if she isn't seeing someone else, she'll miss your company and the flirting will start again.

POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT is always the way forward.

Good luck.

 

[d!ckmojo]

Keep her as a friend, but make sure you have more important girls in your life from now on: girls that you r actually banging.