"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don't Know If this girl is messing with me or not

Kuwi

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Everyday I go into the building she says how nice my hair looks or how nice my shirt looks, she's asked me if I was gay because I wasn't really paying attention to her, and sometimes when i'm leaving to go home in my car I catch her staring at me and than today when she was walking by she touched my shoulder and my face. But what I don't get was today when I was walking into the building her friend said he's wearing the yellow shirt she said I don't think I want to say his shirt is nice he thinks i'm flirting with him. So if she doesn't want me to think she's flirting with me, why does she do this?
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MotownMack

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Some sentence structure would really help here.

Yes she is flirting with you and obviously likes you.

Use your brain, man. She is giving you compliments, she's touching you, you say she's watching you walk to your car. What more do you need?

You're not giving her any feedback, and her saying that she "wasn't flirting with you" was a way of throwing in a disqualifier, the same way guys do with girls (like she is feeling totally rebuffed and giving you a sh1t test now, trying to get a reaction). She's probably frustrated that you're not paying attention to her (I'm assuming what we meant to say in the one sentence was she thinks your "gay" because you DONT pay attention to her.. but feel free to correct me if I am wrong).

Do you need to be hit over the head with a bat here?
 

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MotownMack said:
Some sentence structure would really help here.

Yes she is flirting with you and obviously likes you.

Use your brain, man. She is giving you compliments, she's touching you, you say she's watching you walk to your car. What more do you need?

You're not giving her any feedback, and her saying that she "wasn't flirting with you" was a way of throwing in a disqualifier, the same way guys do with girls (like she is feeling totally rebuffed and giving you a sh1t test now, trying to get a reaction). She's probably frustrated that you're not paying attention to her (I'm assuming what we meant to say in the one sentence was she thinks your "gay" because you DONT pay attention to her.. but feel free to correct me if I am wrong).

Do you need to be hit over the head with a bat here?
Good reply!

Trying to reclaim the upper hand!
 

Max Power

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You're in with this chick. If you like her don't let it slip away.
 

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Max Power said:
You're in with this chick. If you like her don't let it slip away.
What am I supposed to do? She has a boyfriend.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lol, a boyfriend doesn't change my modus operandi whatsoever. You play it exactly like you would if she didn't have a boyfriend.

Also, play around with her sometimes throwing comments in like, "Does your boyfriend know you like me more than him?" stuff like that will get her going. Trust me. :up:

Kuwi said:
What am I supposed to do? She has a boyfriend.
 

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Teh_Wolf said:
thanks for the positive help
:rolleyes: Yeah because something he's supposed to immerse himself into for days,weeks or even months specifically designed to make him understand how sh!t really works with chicks and which also has a by-product of becoming a real life man of worth could NEVER compete with bandaid remedies to questions like:

What am I supposed to do? She has a boyfriend.
Could it?


Oh and thanks for YOUR positive help, you ironic douche.
 
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Guys, don't change the topic. Whatever issues you guys got you guys can deal in PMs (if it's that big of a deal), we're all here to help one another.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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