Don't know if I just shot myself in the foot

[AlexTheGreat]

I spent a few hours with my girlfriend of 5 months tonight, and to be honest I wasn't feeling her too much. She spent about an hour talking to my sister and her friend, leaving me alone, so I had fun and watched some comedy shows and laughed my ass off. She joins me later, I pretty much ignore her and keep watching, and she starts laughing as well.

Anyways we start making out but we're both really tired. Doesn't go farther than that. She then says she has to leave; I go "ok" and let her go down. Once we're there, she says something about a sweater I lent her that she still has (and wants) to give me back. (She had just brought another one today that I lent her at the airport the other day) I go "don't worry about it, just give it back to me when we break up." and she took that really offensively even though I had a smile on and was joking. After a few seconds at looking at me with this "did you just say that" look, I say "its a joke" and she goes "are you sure you're just joking?" with this severe look. I don't answer, I just look into her eyes and keep this smirk on. She then says "I've gotta go, you're not talking to me right" and leaves.

Hmm so what did I just do? Did I shoot myself in the foot right there?

 

[HandyAndy]

Ouch lol, well im gonna guess that girls who are in LTRs dont like to joke about breaking up, judging by what I just read, but what do I know...lol

 

[raiz]

WTF? She's devoted the last 5 months to you and you joke about breaking up with her like that? That's really messed up dude.

On the plus side, making a girl feel emotions is a surefire way NOT to lose her. Both positive and negative emotions will keep a girl coming back until she gets to a breaking point. Assuming you haven't reached that breaking point, when she comes back to you, you need to give her the best f*ck of her life!

 

[Technical1]

Don't worry about it, don't apologize for it, and don't do it again. We could analyze it but I think its enough to say that this is just bad style, this just isn't a classy thing to say to anyone.

What you did was or will be interpreted as a subtle emotional threat.
"It can stop at any time, baby, just give me a reason."

This is where I'm at right now: learning to calibrate my new found indifference and aloofness in a way that isn't alienating to a woman's feelings. Indifference is powerful, but you shouldn't overdo it. It can make the woman feel a LITTLE insecure, keep her on her toes, or it can make her feel WAY insecure, i.e. make her emotionally shut down and run for cover.

Plus, you know the saying, "nothing is ever ONLY a joke." Shakespeare said gravity is the soul of wit. I'm sure you see what I'm implying with this...

 

[JesterX]

you were watching comedy it probably rubbed off on you yay!