dont know how to play this situation??

[supersid]

New to the site and in Need a bit of help with a situation im in.

Met a girl through mutal friends on a night out a few months back and for a person who does not believe in love at first site, i litrally fell hard. Never in my previous relationships did i ever feel like this when you first see them.

I added her on socail media and we got messageing. All the "hahahah" "awwww" "whey did the mutal friends never introduce us before" ect.

Roll forward a couple of weeks of messaging and her getting my number and we organise a get together with mutal friends. All of us go for a food and drinks and at that point the "boyfriend" get mensioned. I played it off not worrying about it. The thing that confused me that night was she was very flirty. I.e asking about my tattoo on my are which has my name and asking if i would ever get her name written on my arm. I played that of to "we will never know will we" later she told me the reason she dates older men i.e he is 30 she a few years younger is because they are more muture. She goes on to mention that although we are of simler age "me and her" that i was muture for my age. Later i droped her of to the station kissed her on the cheek and went and met my friends.

The next morning at 7.30am she texts me to see how my night was. Ect....

Not being able to stop thinking about her i decided yes i know!!! I told her that i couldnt stop thinking about her. This was more for me to get things of my chest and relax abit more. She tried ringing me thay night but inwas busy and text me that she was with the boyfriend and couldnt speak so would text me at a later date. She text me blah blah blah questions questions. End result she said she would love to stay friends if that was ok with me. I agreed because she is really a decent girl.

After texting for a couple more days after her iniciating i decided to go no contact untill i could really get my head around it. Fast forward a few weeks of and she texts me asking why i would not text or talk to her anymore.

For the first time i am clueless where i stand with this girl. Any help out there!!???

 

[Yewki]

She's looking for orbiters and validation outside out of the boyfriend situation. She's also fully aware of what she's doing in terms of misleading you. She waited until you were hooked before dropping the "I have a BF" bomb, and now she wants to continue to string you along... always under the guise of "I thought we were just friends??"

The moment she told you about the BF, you should have either walked or downgraded her to pump and dump status. Never consider a girl like this LTR. If you manage to pursuade her to put out and cheat on her BF... she'll do the same to you later on.

You wrote that you actually wouldn't mind being friends with her. The thing is, you should mind. You can't be friends with someone you want to bang. It doesn't work.

Because she's sort of in your social circle, I wouldn't tell her straight up that you don't want to be friends... just act like you have 0 time for her. Every time she asks why you don't respond, say you're busy.

 

[supersid]

Never thought of it like that. I thought i was more on the backburner the "if it doesnt work out iv got him guy" but that wasnt something im trying to be either. Guess dropping her altogether may be the best option!

 

[pyros]

jeez...you're a total newbie, but thats ok.

In short:

It doesnt matter if she's keeping you as a second option or not.
She likes to keep you as an orbiter, in other words, a weak man who wants to fvck her, she knows it, and she strings you along JUST BECAUSE SHE GETS AN EGO BOOST knowing you want her but she's not gonna give it to you.

So, you should stop talking to her forever unless she tells you she wants to meet up with you alone and she lets you kiss her, escalate sexually etc. In any other scenario you dont talk to her. Unless you want to waste your time, money and mental energy of course.

On to the next girl playa!

 

[Maximus Rex]

Ole Rex is going to highlight what you did wrong.

Met a girl through mutal friends on a night out a few months back

Social circle game is the best and strongest game because you've been pre-qualified via mutual friends. Your friends will vouch for your character and let ole girl know that you're a safe dude. In addition, the awkwardness of introductions are eliminated.

However, there's a severe drawback to pulling chicks from your social circle. Due to familiarity and the ease of the situation you can inadvertently do or say something to turn ole girl off.
Also, if you don't holla at her quickly enough she'll put you in the dreaded friend zone.

for a person who does not believe in love at first site, i litrally fell hard.

Ole Rex is calling bullsh*t on this one. You couldn't possibly be in love with her because to be in love with someone you have to know them. Spent time with them, f*ucked them, shared meals, had conversations covering everything from the tediously mundane to the incredibly profound. You would to seen each other at your worst and best, argued and made up. That's what love involves.

No sir, what you experienced was an intense lust filled desire for a woman you found physically perfect, in addition to you enjoying her conversation.

I also have ask why didn't pull her aside to holla her during this initial meeting? You could take her to the bar or to nearby eatery for some alone time.

added her on socail media and we got messageing. All the "hahahah" "awwww" "whey did the mutal friends never introduce us before" ect.

Please explain to dear ole Rex how adding a stranger to your social media platforms was suppose to benefit you? This was your first mistake. By doing this you became nothing more than a legionnaire in her legion of followers. A word of advice, unless the person is close relative, friend (that you actually talk on a regular basis,) a potential business contact or a chick that you've had sex with, delete them from your social media platforms.

forward a couple of weeks of messaging and her getting my number

Mistake Number 2, Idle chit chat via texting. I guarantee that during these marathon texting sessions you texted something that turned her off. Or just maybe by the fact you were so readily available turned her off. How do I know this, because I made the same mistakes.

For now only use the phone as tool to set up a date and when you, do call her as opposed to texting her. Everything has to be done in person.

we organise a get together with mutal friends.

So this was your first "date?"

at that point the "boyfriend" get mensioned. I played it off not worrying about it.

Damn, you finally did something right.

thing that confused me that night was she was very flirty.

Because her boyfriend didn't matter. Do search under my name or search on the site to "Responses to I Have a Boyfriend," and you'll see why chicks do this.

i.e. asking about my tattoo on my are which has my name and asking if i would ever get her name written on my arm. I played that of to "we will never know will we"

This was a major IOI. She was subliminally telling you to her give a reason to give you some p*ssy.

later she told me the reason she dates older men i.e he is 30 she a few years younger is because they are more muture. She goes on to mention that although we are of simler age "me and her" that i was muture for my age.

I would have teased her about the reason you really date old guys is because you're actually an old lady at heart and by dating me, you'd be a cougar-in-training.

i droped her of to the station kissed her on the cheek and went and met my friends.

Third and crucial mistake implementing safe and conservative game. Go read my approach journal, The Adventures of the Omnipotens Maximus Rex, Reports From the Field. As you peruse the thread, you'll notice the p*ssy that ole Rex f*cked off by not pressing the interaction.

I was at a family reunion in August, I greeted and departed from my aunts and female cousins with kisses on the cheek. When I go to my boy's house, I kiss his daughter on the cheek. When you want to keep things platonic with a broad, you kiss her on the cheek. However, if you're trying hit that ass, you have move things in a romantic and sexual realm. You f*cked up by not going for a tongue kiss. You conveyed the message to ole girl that only wanted a friendship. Even if you went for the kiss and she shut you down, you would have established your intent.

You also missed your window of opportunity when you had her in the car. Again, you should have taken her for a quick drink or a bite to eat, then someplace where you could get to know her carnally. A lot of times you only have one opportunity with these broads. As DJ's, we have to be able to not only recognize these opportunities, but seize upon them when they present themselves.

next morning at 7.30am she texts me to see how my night was. Ect....

Shakin' my muthaf*ckin' head. Let's review. Despite having a "boyfriend," ole girl is flirty with our friend, supersid. She sends several indicators of interest by commenting on his tats, even going as far as to ask when is supersid going to get her name tatted on him.

She then talks about how she normally goes for older and more mature guys. supersid is closer to ole girl's age and she says that supersid and her share the same level of maturity. supersid, shows his ignorance of game (and ******** for that matter,) and completely misses the fact he's just been what pimps call "chosen," by babygirl.

Not to be deterred by supersid's seemingly oblivious nature, upon waking at 7:30 in morning. The first thing baby girl does is text supersid inquiring about how his night was. supersid, (in a state of blissful ignorance,) proceeds engage in a rather insipid text marathon detailing the night's events.

sid, sid, sid. Sit down, relax, and brace yourself for what your new found friend Rex is about to say. Ole girl could have zero f*cks to give about how your night was. A text from a chick 7:30 in the morning is same as receiving it at 3:30 in the morning. You see now sid, don't you? As you're reading this it's become so clear that she wanted you to invite her over. Yes supersid, she wanted to come over to your place to give you some that mid morning p*ssy or at least hook up at a later date, and this was your fourth and final mistake.

I told her that i couldnt stop thinking about her.

F*ck you do that for? How was telling a chick, (who you barely know and is in a relationship mind you,) some omega male creepy borderline stalker sh*t in any way shape or form beneficial to you? By telling her that you went from somebody that she was going out of her way to get in the bed with, to somebody who'd get p*ssy whipped, stalk her, cause her to possibly lose her boyfriend, and endanger her well being.

End result she said she would love to stay friends if that was ok with me.

Again, you have to learn the art of hearing what a woman is truly saying. Here's the translation, supersid, when I met you I thought you were a hot and sexy guy that would come and blow my back on occasion. I envisioned us reenacting that scene (the one with Jayden Jaymes and Erik Everhard,) from Car Wash Girls and I was hoping that by telling you that I had boyfriend, you'd be understanding of me and my situation.

I knew something was wrong when you kept rejecting my advances, but I just chalked it to you not wanting to seem anxious, hell I was even questioning if you even found me attractive, especially after the kiss at the train station.

But you proven me wrong when you said, "that you couldn't stop thinking about me." sid we barely know each other and we haven't even gone a date yet. I haven't done anything that would justify to me constantly being in your thoughts. I'm sooooo glad that didn't pick up on subtle hints for to talk and God forbid if we did have sex. I'd probably have to get a restraining order against you.

I must admit that I do like the unwarranted attention that you would give to me, so I'm not only going offer you spot in my legion of followers, I'm going to make you a centurion.

It will great. We'll go shopping, you can take me out to eat, you can help me pick out makeup, loan me money, and best of all, you can be my shoulder to cry on and give me advice about the guys that I am sucking and f*cking.

 

[Maximus Rex]

End result she said she would love to stay friends if that was ok with me.

Again, you have to learn the art of hearing what a woman is truly saying. Here's the translation, supersid, when I met you I thought you were a hot and sexy guy that would come and blow my back on occasion. I envisioned us reenacting that scene (the one with Jayden Jaymes and Erik Everhard,) from Car Wash Girls and I was hoping that by telling you that I had boyfriend, you'd be understanding of me and my situation.

I knew something was wrong when you kept rejecting my advances, but I just chalked it to you not wanting to seem anxious, hell I was even questioning if you even found me attractive, especially after the kiss at the train station.

But you proven me wrong when you said, "that you couldn't stop thinking about me." sid we barely know each other and we haven't even gone a date yet. I haven't done anything that would justify to me constantly being in your thoughts. I'm sooooo glad that didn't pick up on subtle hints for to talk and God forbid if we did have sex. I'd probably have to get a restraining order against you.

I must admit that I do like the unwarranted attention that you would give to me, so I'm not only going offer you spot in my legion of followers, I'm going to make you a centurion.

It will great. We'll go shopping, you can take me out to eat, you can help me pick out makeup, loan me money, and best of all, you can be my shoulder to cry on and give me advice about the guys that I am sucking and f*cking.

I agreed because she is really a decent girl.

You can lie to yourself, but you can't lie to the DJ's of So Suave. Dude, the only reason that you agreed to this bullsh*t is you're wrongly under the impression that a friendship will lead to a relationship. You think by showing this chick how wonderful of guy you are she's going to fall in love with you. Naw mayne. That's fantasy and bullsh*t because chicks regard f*cking their friends as nasty and icky.

Fast forward a few weeks of and she texts me asking why i would not text or talk to her anymore.

You have a choice. Tell her the truth and say that you can't friends with a girl you're interested in or lie and say you've been talking to and f*cking other women. I recommend the latter because it shows that you can move and it stands a remote chance of sparking her in you.

Pre-selection by other women kinda works on the same principle as social circle game. However, if it doesn't spark her interest, then she trying to f*ck with you.

For the first time i am clueless where i stand with this girl. Any help out there!!???

You stand in her friend zone, abandon all hope for ye who enter here.

 

[supersid]

Think this break down is probably on point! How do you jump out of the friendzone??

 

[pyros]

you dont.

Being in the friendzone does not mean that you're friends but she would like to have sex with you, like you do. It means that SHE DOESNT GET WET WHEN SHE'S WITH YOU, in other words, SHE DOESNT FIND YOU HOT.

 

[supersid]

Just a little note on the side. When she text me a week after asking why i never speak to her anymore p. It came after she found out i was out on a date with another girl!

 

[Maximus Rex]

Think this break down is probably on point!

What you mean "think?" It is on point because Rex wrote it.

Do you jump out of the friendzone??

The odds of successfully navigating out of the friend zone is 3,720 to 1. However, our friend Harry Wilimgton has written a guide on how to get out of the friend zone. The guide normally sells for $14, but I think today (being 11/14/15,) is the last day you can download the guide for free. Go to www.stoplosingwomen.com for the download.

Just a little note on the side. When she text me a week after asking why i never speak to her anymore p. It came aftershe found out i was out on a date with another girl!

There's something about having other women finding you desirable that makes a chick act right. However, in ole girl's case she was probably just checking to see if you were still in her legion of followers. What did you tell her?

 

[supersid]

Didnt message her back till the night after. Saying i was busy! To which she waited till the next morning to text me back. Heres another twist in the works. She as i write this is on holiday with her boyfriend but is texting me see how i am doing? Have not replied yet. But i think to my self why would she want to text me while she is in a compleatly different country

 

[Maximus Rex]

Didnt message her back till the night after. Saying i was busy! To which she waited till the next morning to text me back.

This indeed a fascinating scenario. Despite completely revealing yourself to be an omega male faggot. She's still trying to contact you. These are the following reasons that she's contacting you.

4) She's a strung out attention fiend. Imagine a hardcore heroin addict. This how bad she needs attention from men.

3) She thinks that you're a simp. She thinks that you're going be her emotional tampon and that you'll buy her sh*t.

2) You completely f*cked her head up. You went from being a cool, sexy, mysteryious and seductive alpha male to a needy, creepy, omega male that was displaying signs of being a potential stalker, to leaving her alone. This wacky b*tch might actually be intrigued by the different facets of your personality that you're displaying.

1) Dispite all of the major f*cking up you did, she still might be trying to give you some.

another twist in the works.She as i write this is on holiday with her boyfriend. But i think to my self why would she want to text me while she is in a compleatly different country.

She's not happy with her boyfriend, bruh. Chicks that are in happy relationships don't text other dudes, especially when they're on vacation.

This type of behavior is also indicative of how she feels about ole boy, which is she doesn't have much respect him or her relationship for that matter.

Have not replied yet.

Here's what you do sid. You hit her backing saying, "Your such sweet but such a naughty, naughty, girl. With it being so close to Christmas, (assuming she's a Christian,) you run a very big risk of being put on Santa's bad list for being such a bad girl. Contacting me while your in "whatever exotic locale," with "her boyfriend's name." Even though I'm glad that you're thinking of me while you're away, I'm going to have to spank you for being a bad girl.

Seriously, though. Enjoy your vacation with "so and so." Take a selfie and a regular picture by yourself just for me that won't be shared on social media by "x" landmark, and bring me back a souvenir. Call me when you get home. I want to hook with you with to hear about your trip and see your vacation pictures."

Peep the game that was laid in this simple, yet subtle text that's designed to undue the damage that you previously did.

"Your such sweet but such a naughty, naughty, girl. With it being so close to Christmas, (assuming she's a Christian,) you run a very big risk of being put on Santa's bad list for being such a bad girl."

Here you're opening with some playful silly sh*t all the while implicitly acknowledging that she's doing something that she shouldn't be doing.

Contacting me while your in "whatever exotic locale," with "her boyfriend's name.

Here you're being ****y and funny while acknowledging her relationship.

"Even though I'm glad that you're thinking of me while you're away, I'm going to have to spank you for being a bad girl.

You're reciprocating her asking her about while she's on vacation with her man.

I'm going to have to spank you for being a bad girl.

The above is strong and powerful game and is much needed in your recovery efforts. You hella played yourself with that, "I can't stop thinking about you," bull****. So to counter it, you have to make a bold move with a sexual innuendo.

This will let ole girl know that under no uncertain terms you're about trying to get that p*ssy. As a result, she'll either leave you alone and stress, "let's just be friends." To which you'll reply with, "okay." You will then fade to black and let her find her attention fix elsewhere or if continues to contact you she knows what your intent is and will expect you to make a move.

Seriously, though. Enjoy your vacation with "so and so."

More powerful and important game. You've acknowledged that she has a boyfriend and that you're respecting her relationship.

Take a selfie and a regular picture by yourself just for me that won't be shared on social media by "x" landmark, and bring me back a souvenir.

You just gave her a series of instructions designed to gauge her level of interest. If she takes the pictures as instructed and they're not on her social media platforms, she has very f*cking interested. If she brings you a souvenir, you've fully recovered and are back at square one.

Call me when you get home.

Crucial f*cking game right here. Again you're acknowledging and respecting her situation. She's going to see that you know she's with her man and you're not going to cause a disturbance in her relationship.

She also see that you have a life and that you're doing sh*t. In addition, (as they say on So Suave,) it will get her "hamster wheel," and she'll be wondering what you're up to.

Of course she'll ignore what you and will probably text you. If she does text you, (here's where you apply the pimpin',) tell to call (if she can) if you hit her with, "I specifically told you to call me when you got home. So why are you texting me? If you're bored you need text one of your friends. Better yet, go do "x" activity associated with whatever location your in with her boyfriend's name. Have fun. Enjoy your holiday. I'll see you when I'll see you. Oh yeah, letting you know if you want to contact me, you're going to speak to be on the phone.

See the recurring theme sid. You're acknowledging her relationship, you're showing that you won't be a creepy, crazy, needy, stalker dude, and you have a life, you stand by your word, and you gave her a final instruction to call you. By the way, if does indeed call you, consider that a major IOI.

I want to hook with you with to hear about your trip and see your vacation pictures."

You know what sid? Good ole Rex has laced you with so much game, you should able to figure out what ole girl has agreed to concerning this part of the text.