"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don't just #close!

BG the HB Tamer

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Okay, that's not really true. But listen..

I noticed that I have a lot of trouble escalating.. Especially when it comes to kissing the girl (once I get passed that, I'm fine). So recently I've been out sarging a lot.. and I notice that you can really tell when girls are ready to be kissed.

I just never have the guts to put myself to it (I'm working on this - I have a plan, don't give me advice for this - you don't know the underlying problem).


Anyway, I was #closing a lot of girls. Then I got to the day2.. and then I'd still not kiss.

I was #closing, because I did not dare to go further and I was buying myself time. Yeah, I wasn't an AFC, cuz I was getting numbers. but I was a HUGE EXCUZER!!

Now I'm stopping the #closing, first I want to get rid of this excuse. Without a kiss, there is no #close, that's it.


Look at your reasons for #closing ! Are you doing it because you want the number at that moment, or are you doing it cuz you don't have the guts to push the set further??

If it is the second.. change your goals. Change your sticking point and stop going for the #close!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Boner da Stoner

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So what is your real prob BG? I've never read your blog, it's kinda boring;) I also don't see any topics in the tips forum that I can use.

I say you should try to blow your game to a new level, don't just try to #close, or **** close. Just keep it open.

I'll hop around the club or the party and just liven everybody up. Most of the time if the group knows me I can walk in like I just woke up and they'll be all eyes.

Youve got to work on your outer game:p hehe big assumptions, eh?

wow canadian lingo value. Say "assumption" sounding non AFC and than say "assumption, eh" in an AFC tone, now switch them up. :crackup:

#closing is just to get over the fear of rejection.

Take me, I've got a limited number of places to touch down in, but I have free reign. People bought me two pizzas and damned near got me kicked out with all the suds. I got threatened three times that I was getting tipsy, I just raise my voice for the tenders to the beat and they played along. I left the bar for another and got kicked out there. hehe I went to the bathroom and got locked in the stall, When I climbed over a bouncer came in at the very second and told me to get my jacket "and stop treating the place like a jungle gym" I was stumped and knew there'd be girls outside smoking that I could F close.
 
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