Dont go anywhere that requires walking if your already tired

[cablecow15]

I went out to a shopping mall after work today, I was a little tired from work , but decided to get off my a$$ and run around the local strip mall.

After a few stores with no interesting women I started feeling awkward and tired , it seemed like the farther I made it down the strip the more uncomfortable I felt in my own skin.

I was a little upset that I didn't approach anyone , but I cant figure out if my confidence started to drop because of me feeling weak, and that reflecting on my self image , or if I just felt so out of place that it drained all of my energy.

This was also the first time I wandered the area with the sole purpose of browsing the ladies in a long time.

Ive been here a while and id like to think Ive been enlightened quite a bit , but ive never been able to see any solid results from myself yet , I can give advice out the a$$ , but i haven't helped myself a whole lot lol

 

[btownbuck2012]

ive been in that situation. you're out at the mall trying to approach girls and you just can't get yourself to do it. the longer it takes, the more shi tty you feel. It feels like everyone else is watching you and knows exactly why you're there and what you're up to. LOL, but the reality of the situation is NO ONE cares. it's all in your head.

approaching women in public is an incredibly hard thing to do. most guys on here talk like its no big deal but the reality of the situation is it takes huge balls to even try it, let alone keep it up consistently and get good at it.

I've found that once i've been shot down, i.e. rejected, by about 10 girls i suddenly start to feel relaxed and calm. Try this. Go out to the mall and consider the first 10 girls you talk to as practice. After a while the fear of rejection goes away because you've experienced it and realized that it doesn't kill you. It may sting for a minute of two but after that it goes away.

I call it being "in the zone". Its the same type of feeling you have while you're walking around your apartment by yourself. You're relaxed, comfortable, your body language is all very calm and smooth. You can have this same type of feeling out in public. Again, all you gotta do is warm up first, i.e. get rejected a-lot at first lol. good luck dude.

 

[cablecow15]

thanks , glad to hear im not the only one to have this kinda steady decrese in momentum , since i havent been out for a while i was just wondering if all of it was hitting me at one n trying to break me down

 

[Mike32ct]

The game is physically draining. It can also require a lot of walking. Even night game is draining whether it's bar hopping or dancing.

Plus day or night, pproaching and gaming can be mentally taxing.

You do as much as you can and then call it a day or night, as applicable.

Old codgers like me require a "disco nap" before going out lol.

 

[cablecow15]

The game is physically draining. It can also require a lot of walking. Even night game is draining whether it's bar hopping or dancing.

Plus day or night, pproaching and gaming can be mentally taxing.

You do as much as you can and then call it a day or night, as applicable.

Old codgers like me require a "disco nap" before going out lol.

lol , I actually have a bar night planned with a few guys at work later this week , ill consider the nap idea XD