Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dont get trapped in how Sosuave members view the world

verysuave

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really, its not like this in the real world. Some say, its hard to make friends, find girls, talk to them, flirt with them. Being social, etc etc

You may have read thousands of threads here with how the people here view their world (unfortunately, most of these guys here share the same vision of how the world, women treats them)

Really, its not like this outside this forum. Don't get trapped in this matrix. Dont let the forum brainswash you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bible_Belt

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Don't get trapped in this matrix.

Yes, the idea that the world is a Matrix conspiracy against you is itself a self-limiting, "Matrix"-type belief.
 

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Well what exactly do most SoSuavers believe anyways? I don't pay much attention to their beliefs anyways, but now I'm a little curious.

Personally, I believe that there is a matrix and most people- even most SoSuavers are still trapped in it. Most people accept the fake set of sociological values set out for them without ever realize what life is all about. Or rather that life is about anything. People seem to think that they have to be 'successful' in life. Successful according to who's standards? Not yours. Values are not hereditary, they are learned. Breaking past these value is the first step to really living.

What most people don't realize is that they there is nothing in life that they have to do. This entire universe is a fluke. Therefor, we are flukes as well, and one day, all this- this fluke- will eventually end. We will all die. No exceptions. You can choose not to accept the truth, but it's still true. No matter what we do in life, we will still all die. And what does it even matter, Our entire existence is just evolutionary fluke. These values of what we 'need' before we die are all bullsh*t. There is nothing that we need to do. So I say do whatever the hell you want. If you're afraid to do something crazy, just remember that you're going to die anyways, so it doesn't matter when. I'd rather Live and die young than wait my whole life without living.

Anyways, my friends are here, I want got to go play soccer now.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mr Autobahn

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I think you are talking about the immature guys... they just talk a good game but there are a lot of good posts on this forum...

Just use the smell test...
 
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To each its own ... there is good advice here... I think you have to create your own world ... use the advice you learn from here and apply it to your world...I think we are all pretty smart to know what's negative and what's positive .

most of us have accomplished meeting women through trial and error...

I know I sure as hell did ...

I personally am outgoing and hate to be bored ...when I hang out with my friends, I make the best of it ...

I have heard advice from lykis, sosuave, mystery...

and I just molded their advice into my world ...

thats what keeps me coming back to here, I learn something new everyday ...

but I have read some negative stuff on here... but who are we to judge ... we are all here for the same reason ... we all learn from our mistakes... and I think we should let others know why they made a mistake ...

and if someone is being negative, why are they bringing it to the forum in the 1st place , they should ask them selves that question ... 1st

"El que no arriesga no gana" , its a spanish quote that means

"the one that doesn't risk , never wins "
 

Rebound Material

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I think there are 2 matrix sets:

1) The world we knew before sosuave which we trusted easily, but would get fcuked over if we didn't think too much about it.

or

2) The sosuave world where NO ONE is trusted easily which keeps you safe, but at the same time just down right bitter.
 

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It looks like you only pay attention to the negative parts. Sosuave is a great place to learn from if you have no friends, girls, and whatever else you lack. There are members here that actually changed for the better because of sosuave, so don't knock it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Kev07

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a lot of sosuavers do have the same beliefs in life actually, it's just a byproduct of a forum. you go on any other forum about other things and you'll notice the same thing.

read and learn, but remember that sosuave is NOT life
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Some members are telling the truth of how life is. Or how it should be through experience. Others don't get it or don't want to believe it.
 
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