don't get caught

[comote]

Hey aspiring DJ's I just wanted to warn everyone about a particularly dreadful type of one-itis. The "not wanting to lose" one-itis. I am sure we have all been there, we don't fall in love with the girl or anything afc like that, yet we keep trying simply because we think that she should be all over us and it puzzles us that she isn't. Then you spend all your energy trying to get some girl that you don't even like that much. This type of situation can set you back tons and it can strike even when you you are strengthening as a dj(actually this is when you are most susceptible).
So remember, no one can ever batted 1000. Accept it and move on.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Thank you sage, for bestowing your presence and words to us mere mortals!

 

[comote]

No problem pr-lover, I like to help others every once in a while.
It is simply this is something I haven't seen discussed for a while.
Si no te gusta el aviso, no tienes que responder, o puedes decir porque no te gusta el aviso.

 

[On_the_Top]

Originally posted by comote
Hey aspiring DJ's I just wanted to warn everyone about a particularly dreadful type of one-itis. The "not wanting to lose" one-itis. I am sure we have all been there, we don't fall in love with the girl or anything afc like that, yet we keep trying simply because we think that she should be all over us and it puzzles us that she isn't. Then you spend all your energy trying to get some girl that you don't even like that much. This type of situation can set you back tons and it can strike even when you you are strengthening as a dj(actually this is when you are most susceptible).
So remember, no one can ever batted 1000. Accept it and move on.

Man Iam going to b!tch slap myself till I start crying.


stupid stupid stupid............ouch! I hit a sharp corner

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

En que pais vive?

I have nothing against your advice - you just stated the obvious!

Going after someone that doesn't want you is a waste of time and it is not really a challenge, it is putting your efforts on the wrong person when time could be spent pursuing a more worthy subject.. Like you said, "why spend all that energy on a girl you don't like much" - for ego? For sex? Men pursue for a reason, it is only up to them to decide why they want that target!

 

[comote]

Vivo en los E.U.
I know the advice seems obvious but still, alot of times we can get an ego. I got caught up in chasing a woman I didn't even like, simply because my ego wouldn't let me next her. I knew all about nexting and challenge and mystery and I did everything correct, except next her when I should have. The sick thing is I even thought I was doing it the DJ way, but I wasn't, simply because I forgot the number one rule:
always be willing to walk away.

 

[DJ_Dork]

fools, it's easy. just IGNORE/CUT OFF CONTACT.

 

[uniassign]

Although the classification of this type of One-itis is purely academic, it is a legitimate class of One-itis.

In my opinion, the classic case of one-itis is one where you want the chick. It is where you put too much value in the chick, thereby causing you to really chase her. You cannot live without her, or think that there are better chicks out there.

However, this case of One-itis Comote pointed out is different. It is not a case where you think the girl is too good. She is not. Rather she is NOT GOOD ENOUGH for you, therefore you think bagging her would be a walk in the park.

However, she is not responding how she is SUPPOSED to, as with all the other girls. So you put in more and more effort. And since you have put in SO MUCH effort, you convince yourself that she is ACTUALLY VALUABLE and you chase her even more.

I have fallen for this trip recently. It is NOT GOOD. It took my wing to b!tch slap me out of it.

Good observations.