Sideshow Mel
New Member
There's something that has happened to me, and I'm telling you about it because you can learn from my mistakes. My current LTR isn't over, but it was heading for trouble before what I realized today, and now I can save it.
Back when I met my girlfriend, 4 months ago, I was a total DJ with her. Because of this, getting her was simple. Everything just fell into place. Things were going along smoothly for a while, but there was a bit of turbulence recently. I now understand why, and I will share my insight.
I had gotten away from being the Don Juan that I should've been. After she was mine, I loosened up a lot, and I didn't even realize it. Things were going too well at the time.
My biggest mistake was that I had sacrificed what was, before meeting her, my life. It suddenly all revolved around seeing her and being with her. The things that I enjoyed outside of the relationship took a back seat. And I started to spend as much free time with her as possible. And because of that, her life based more around me. The end result was a lowered interest level.
There are so many lessons here, but the main one is this: put your own life first, and keep it first. Don't give anything up just for her. A major principle of being a Don Juan is to live life for yourself, and that shouldn't change once a relationship starts.
Back when I met my girlfriend, 4 months ago, I was a total DJ with her. Because of this, getting her was simple. Everything just fell into place. Things were going along smoothly for a while, but there was a bit of turbulence recently. I now understand why, and I will share my insight.
I had gotten away from being the Don Juan that I should've been. After she was mine, I loosened up a lot, and I didn't even realize it. Things were going too well at the time.
My biggest mistake was that I had sacrificed what was, before meeting her, my life. It suddenly all revolved around seeing her and being with her. The things that I enjoyed outside of the relationship took a back seat. And I started to spend as much free time with her as possible. And because of that, her life based more around me. The end result was a lowered interest level.
There are so many lessons here, but the main one is this: put your own life first, and keep it first. Don't give anything up just for her. A major principle of being a Don Juan is to live life for yourself, and that shouldn't change once a relationship starts.