"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don't forget what you got where you are... or else

tosh

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Long story short: I used to read this forum a year ago. Started using the paradigms often repeated on here to build attraction and before I knew it I was swamped with girls who couldn't get enough of me.

Yesterday I went on a date with a girl who I really started liking through the date. I loosened up, started acting like a normal nice guy, mirroring here "niceness".

BANG!!!! "Sorry, you're so LOVELY but I think we're too different" (on trying to get another date).

Don't get complacent. Don't forget what's getting you these dates and what's making the girls coming back for more. Even if she looks like the sweetest/nicest girl in the world, she still probably prefers you to be ****y or an *******.

Anyway, I've learnt my lesson and will not make this mistake again, at least for a short while :p
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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And this brings me to my most important point that I always try to raise: What's the point of being with a girl if you feel like to have to put on an act to keep her?
 

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Juan_Man said:
And this brings me to my most important point that I always try to raise: What's the point of being with a girl if you feel like to have to put on an act to keep her?
the opportunity for sex
 

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Thats why it's all about turning artificial game into...

Natural Game
 

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It's true that a lot of the things you initially do consciously, end up sifting into your natural/subconscious actions.

But it's also true that the more you like a girl or loosen up, the more you step away from the things that got you the girl in the first place.

I don't have an answer to the dilemma of "am I just pretending to be someone I'm not", all I know is that I lost a girl I quite liked. When the latter happens, it makes the former seem insignificant...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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