Don't forget to ask yourself... why??

[ducaro]

To all you guys on here who are in seach for the 'woman' of your life..
just some of my thoughts.. this post is only for those who are hoping they would find a 'good woman' one day and settle down...and clearly NOT for those who want to turn somebody into a 'fvck buddy' or do some 'hot babe' in a super market with 'inner game' or whatever.

Please be very sure, i mean ABSOLUTELY sure about the woman you are gonna get into your life. There may be a time when you actually find a good woman finally after all the struggle of going through the crapppy women out there, but its imperative you find out for yourself exactly why she likes/loves you.. and what is her motive in getting together with you..

here is a list of the things your woman should NOT consider when she falls in love with you.. (not in any particular order)

1. you look good
2. you have money
3. you'd make a good dad
4. you have influence
5. you are well built
6. you are popular
7. you don't smoke/drink
8. you are 'cool'
9. you are good in bed
10. i can go on..

Do you see it? all the factors are external. It has nothing to do with the person.. the real you.. what really makes you a special person.. what makes you unique from within.

what I am trying to say is your aim should be looking for a woman who doesn't really care about your externals.. your environment.. what you have achieved,, i mean all of this (externals) should be considered a bonus and nothing more... it doesn't really matter if it did not exist.. you know what i mean?

The real woman should be looking inside you to find out about 'you' as a person.. what are the qualities that make you so special.. what is your thinking like.. your philosophy of life.. what makes you a different person... your spiritual maturity, your passion for life... what drives you... your compassion for nature.. etc etc
this i feel is the essense of true love and respect (i believe it exists, unless you wanna prove me wrong)

sadly, a majority of the men and women fall in love with eachother and get married only because of the above factors'.. there is no depth to it... i see it happenin all the time.. The women don't think about the consequences of what would happen if all those factors suddenly vanished one-day... they just swing branches when that happens! this is the misery we all see.

so summing it up.. always ask yourself why she loves you. and you should be asking yourself too.. do you like her just because she is pretty, quiet, shy and the fact she'd make a good mother?

this post might end up sounding a lil too spiritual in a sense, but I can't help it.. im just not materialistic and I always strive to know the truth behind everything.. (even if its hurts!) I just don't believe in superficial/shallow relationships of convenience. honestly, its all about materialism and greed. this is what is killing love, respect and understanding for one another around the world.

I firmly believe you should tell yourself everyday that you are gonna die one day.. face it you are! so be humble yet strong, focused and confident about what you wanna do in this life. after all, you will be answering yourself in your death bed about everything you achieved/experienced in this life.. and you most certainly wanna be truthful and deep about it, don't you??

I hope this post helps you to get to know yourself better. Find the meaning in yourselves.

let me know what you think..

 

[Last Man Standing]

I agree!

Except for this... "..and you should be asking yourself too.. do you like her just because she is pretty, quiet, shy and the fact she'd make a good mother?"

Submissive to a man's power? These are the qualities that you should be looking for!!

 

[Obsidian]

umm, I disagree partly

#3, #7, #9, and to some extent #1 are all legitimate concerns a woman might have (parenting, virtues/vices, sexual skill, looks)

Of course, if she knows what your sexual skill is and you're not married to her, I guess that makes her a hor... So maybe you're right about #9.

do you like her just because she is pretty, quiet, shy and the fact she'd make a good mother?

Those are all necessities for me, except that she doesn't have to be shy. On top of those, she should have similar values, be submissive, and show high interest level.