"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Focus on yourself man. That's the best thing to do.
Right now your ego has been struck deeply and it's best to focus on bringing back self confidence and self reliance.

I get where you're coming from about feeling "lost" after a break up. I've been there. It's not pretty. It's lonely. And it will be hard to go completely no contact but do it, do it for yourself and for the self respect you deserve.

If you have a close group of guy friends, spend time with them as much as you can. That will help you get out of the house and distract yourself from thinking too much about her and stop you from calling her.

What I've learned is that you must focus on building a life for yourself. That your life is to be like a cake and woman is nothing but the frosting. Whether a woman is in your life or not, the cake is still there. Because you've built it and it isn't dependent on a woman.

Work out, eat better, get a hobby or two, do martial arts (I recommend jiu jitsu, very humbling), focus on your business and school.

Stay busy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks guys, no contact have been applied, now it is just keeping it.

I just have a dress and a belt of hers, and I think the best thing will be to return it is as fast as possible, so that I could cut her of completely.


Once again, thanks!
 
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Throw her sh!t in the trash!

You have no obligation s to her now.

If she calls tell her to fvck off!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That's the thing, the situation is so illogical, I know I have nothing to gain (except the great sex), and she was such a ***** towards me, but I am still thinking about her, still missing her, and a bit sad that after 2 years, she could do something like that towards me..

Man, this situation is so weird, it really makes sense now with the 'give her it all, and when she peaks, pull it all away at once', this situation is seriously throwing me through some mental terror, but as with everything else, time will heal, and when a week has gone by, without thinking of her, I know I am over her. I hope I recover as a better man, at least I gained the experience
 
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European-DJ said:
That's the thing, the situation is so illogical, I know I have nothing to gain (except the great sex), and she was such a ***** towards me, but I am still thinking about her, still missing her, and a bit sad that after 2 years, she could do something like that towards me..

Man, this situation is so weird, it really makes sense now with the 'give her it all, and when she peaks, pull it all away at once', this situation is seriously throwing me through some mental terror, but as with everything else, time will heal, and when a week has gone by, without thinking of her, I know I am over her. I hope I recover as a better man, at least I gained the experience
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There is nothing more pitiful than a guy who doesn't respect himself.
 
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I returned her stuff, said bye bye, without a hug or anything; all within 1-2 minutes.

Afterwards she texted me 'great, my shirt is broken... why were you in such a hurry?', I called her and told her it wasn't on purpose that the shirt had broken, and that I was sorry for that. Afterwards, she mentioned that my last message was weird, because I had implied that we were better of without each other.
The conversation ended all of the sudden, when my doorbell rang, and I was like

Me: "gotta go, bye"
Her: "Wait what"
Me: "I really gotta go, bye"

And I hanged up.

An hour late, I missed her call. An hour after that I send her a text about my modem, that I forgot at her place. I didn't get an answer, I probably never will. Guess I will just buy a new one, and let that be my final message to her.

I think that she thought it was weird, I actually think she had it like 'I won this, it was a great thing I dumped him'. Because of the way I acted, a bit stressed, and I think she could tell that I deep inside wanted her back, but I know it is wrong, I really shouldn't have those feelings, and I hope NC is going to help me.
 
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