"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don't believe half of what u read on this site.
- Thread starter GinuwineXXX
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
This site has taught me a lot. Even though it seems like everyone likes to ignore everything I say (which is true; don't deny it), I still read threads on this board while hardly posting. The reason is that the more I get into relationships, I realize what a crock a lot of DJing is.
1) Physicalities. Sure its nice to look your best but isn't this common sense? I'm down to almost 230 lbs now and while I'm still fat, I still get a lot of HBs interested in me. I doubt I'd be considered bragging rights to any girl to her friends but thats not much of my concern. Remember, women are as horny as men in many cases. We often look at chubby chicks and get attracted to some of them (they do; don't lie unless you got mental issues) so why couldn't women feel the same for chubby men?
2) C+F, Neghits, etc. I think 99% of this is crap. This is used only if you have absolutely nothing to say yourself about any other subject matter. I believe that a lot of women that fall for those aformentioned tactics probably have rode on a lot of ****s in the past or were abused as children. Girls with self esteem will think you're an ass. Women want a man who is in control but being an ******* just limits your options. A lot of girls probably go out with you because of other reasons than being C+F.
3) Numbers. Numbers mean almost nothing. Many girls will give you their numbers but that doesn't make them interested. They know that most men will flake out because they are too scared to move to the next level. I get tired of seeing people talk about number closes like its some big step. I suppose its a big leap from being too scared to get it but numbers mean little. Going out with her at least three times is the only time I can see making a deal about it.
4) Confidence/Charisma. A lot of people talk about this like its some key but this again, like my observation #1 is that it should be normal. A lot of people move up the corporate ladder because the have confidence and charisma. Why should any adult not have it? If you want to get anywhere in life, let alone women, you need this regardless.
5) Its all about the nookie. I have a saying that says true DJing is 99% mind, 1% women. I believe this completely and some here do and if you ask me, they are the only real successful DJs. A lot of people here are like "Well, if I lose X lbs and buy X clothing and do X tactics, I can get women." To me, thats 99% women, 1% mind. A lot of people here are so slain by pu$$y that they are hardly any better than their AFC days. Pu$$y with a regular flow thats not from bar sluts comes to those who are first self assured. I think that a lot of people here, some newbies, some people that have been around for months, are forgetting this and yet they often post complaints about how they're not getting the poon.
6) Analyzation. Whatever happened to excitement and change? A lot of people here have their conversations so calculated that it can't possibly be too fun. If they see a potential problem, they run and post it here. Yes, some advice is needed but often times it is so ridiculous. "She looked at me and said Hi! OMG, does she like me?" Why can't you just grow a pair and ask her out? Yes, that may not be the True Hardcore 100% DJ but its better than standing with a thumb up your ass wondering what statement you read on this board to say next. Have fun with women. They want fun and so should you.
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That said, I hope I'm not the only one here that thinks this. I'm sure it will be ignored anyway so oh well.
1) Physicalities. Sure its nice to look your best but isn't this common sense? I'm down to almost 230 lbs now and while I'm still fat, I still get a lot of HBs interested in me. I doubt I'd be considered bragging rights to any girl to her friends but thats not much of my concern. Remember, women are as horny as men in many cases. We often look at chubby chicks and get attracted to some of them (they do; don't lie unless you got mental issues) so why couldn't women feel the same for chubby men?
2) C+F, Neghits, etc. I think 99% of this is crap. This is used only if you have absolutely nothing to say yourself about any other subject matter. I believe that a lot of women that fall for those aformentioned tactics probably have rode on a lot of ****s in the past or were abused as children. Girls with self esteem will think you're an ass. Women want a man who is in control but being an ******* just limits your options. A lot of girls probably go out with you because of other reasons than being C+F.
3) Numbers. Numbers mean almost nothing. Many girls will give you their numbers but that doesn't make them interested. They know that most men will flake out because they are too scared to move to the next level. I get tired of seeing people talk about number closes like its some big step. I suppose its a big leap from being too scared to get it but numbers mean little. Going out with her at least three times is the only time I can see making a deal about it.
4) Confidence/Charisma. A lot of people talk about this like its some key but this again, like my observation #1 is that it should be normal. A lot of people move up the corporate ladder because the have confidence and charisma. Why should any adult not have it? If you want to get anywhere in life, let alone women, you need this regardless.
5) Its all about the nookie. I have a saying that says true DJing is 99% mind, 1% women. I believe this completely and some here do and if you ask me, they are the only real successful DJs. A lot of people here are like "Well, if I lose X lbs and buy X clothing and do X tactics, I can get women." To me, thats 99% women, 1% mind. A lot of people here are so slain by pu$$y that they are hardly any better than their AFC days. Pu$$y with a regular flow thats not from bar sluts comes to those who are first self assured. I think that a lot of people here, some newbies, some people that have been around for months, are forgetting this and yet they often post complaints about how they're not getting the poon.
6) Analyzation. Whatever happened to excitement and change? A lot of people here have their conversations so calculated that it can't possibly be too fun. If they see a potential problem, they run and post it here. Yes, some advice is needed but often times it is so ridiculous. "She looked at me and said Hi! OMG, does she like me?" Why can't you just grow a pair and ask her out? Yes, that may not be the True Hardcore 100% DJ but its better than standing with a thumb up your ass wondering what statement you read on this board to say next. Have fun with women. They want fun and so should you.
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That said, I hope I'm not the only one here that thinks this. I'm sure it will be ignored anyway so oh well.
TesuqueRed
Master Don Juan
Pick up on the energy this guy launched into this post with---you make allowances that English isn't his first language, and you can nit-pick points with ease--but at some point he said "fvck it, I wanna say something here!" and launched into it. For posts like these, you have to go with the energy of the piece (sure, sounds touchy-feely, but you know what I mean...)
What's the key thing he said, (IMO...that is...) That you hit the bible and the boards and learn as much as you can as well as you can, and hit the real world. And then, at a certain point, you have to cut loose and just play it---follow the advice, break the rule, go with the feeling in the moment---and see where you end up.
As for his list of names, I think he's picking up that quite a large number of them respond to a post, any post, with some personal touchstone that isn't a rule. Or--if it squares with a rule--they'll mention it because it doesn't interfere with their personal experience.
Nit-pick him on minor points or the ESL, but be sure to pick up on where he's coming from. He's bumping up a stage and using new material, and that is worth watching...
What's the key thing he said, (IMO...that is...) That you hit the bible and the boards and learn as much as you can as well as you can, and hit the real world. And then, at a certain point, you have to cut loose and just play it---follow the advice, break the rule, go with the feeling in the moment---and see where you end up.
As for his list of names, I think he's picking up that quite a large number of them respond to a post, any post, with some personal touchstone that isn't a rule. Or--if it squares with a rule--they'll mention it because it doesn't interfere with their personal experience.
Nit-pick him on minor points or the ESL, but be sure to pick up on where he's coming from. He's bumping up a stage and using new material, and that is worth watching...
Crotch Sniffer
Banned
YEah tesqqweutrq (whatever) Red is right!
I have read great advice from dudes who only have 50 posts under their belts. I try to trust my instincts on whether someone is talkin out their ass and it doesnt fail me EVER ... ok sometimes it fux up but hardly ever!
That list sux donkey ballz because I am not on it..j/k I know I am not THERE yet but the list did leave out Mr. Fingers. That guy is living proof that you dont need 10,000,000 posts to write some quality schiznit!
I have read great advice from dudes who only have 50 posts under their belts. I try to trust my instincts on whether someone is talkin out their ass and it doesnt fail me EVER ... ok sometimes it fux up but hardly ever!
That list sux donkey ballz because I am not on it..j/k I know I am not THERE yet but the list did leave out Mr. Fingers. That guy is living proof that you dont need 10,000,000 posts to write some quality schiznit!
thissucks003
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Question?????
Have you sarged with any of these members? Otherwise it is just a list of people who you like what they have to say. You have no idea how well they do with women unless you met them IRL.
There is alot of things those on your list and those that aren't on your list have contributed here that I have learned from but it doesn't mean that they are the best or know the most about women. I wouldn't make that kind of generalization about anyone here. Your yardstick for success is not everyone elses.
TS
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Re: Re: Don't believe half of what u read on this site.
Big difference between having some insightful answers to many of the issues that involve women and actually being very good with women. Having the knowledge and actually putting the knowledge into practice are two very different things.
Exactly.
Big difference between having some insightful answers to many of the issues that involve women and actually being very good with women. Having the knowledge and actually putting the knowledge into practice are two very different things.
GinuwineXXX
Don Juan
TesuqueRed,
Thank you that was the point that I was trying to get across.
diplomatic_lies
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If you're smart enough to read this, you should be smart enough to take "pieces" of advice from people, rather than adopting their style completely.
I mean I do public speaking, and yes I take points from Hitler's style. But do you think I go round screaming about killing jews and gypsies and taking over France?
I mean I do public speaking, and yes I take points from Hitler's style. But do you think I go round screaming about killing jews and gypsies and taking over France?