rascal99v
Senior Don Juan
The worst thing you can ever do, is to be forced to be in a relationship (or settle for one) that you really don't want to be in. That is what an AFC and a beta does. An AFC is afraid of hurting the woman's feelings so they get involved in a relationship they really don't want to be in because they have no other options at the moment.
An AFC wants to have sex, so they feel the only way to have sex is to be in a relationship. The women will either withhold sex until they begin a relationship, or she will make him feel guilty for having sex and not being official. In some cases, the man will feel like he is stringing her along feeling bad on his own. No matter what the situation is here, the man will automatically start the relationship off being powerless handing all of his power to the woman.
Why would that be? Because, she is withholding sex as a weapon depriving you of the sex you should be having. Her selfish needs are forcing you to be in a relationship in order to have sex. That means she can control you with whatever she wants. If she can control the sex forcing you to be in a relationship, she can control the sex during the relationship with whatever she wants you to do. And being the AFC that these guys are, they will do it in order for their d1cks to get wet.
What about the guys that are guilt tripped into being in a relationship? Same thing, she can cut off the sex until the relationship becomes official. Once she control the sex, she will start controlling you.
So all the while, the man is doing whatever she wants because he is afraid of hurting her feelings. The woman knows she is in control because it was her power that made the relationship happen and she is using it to her advantage.
Down the road, she will get tired of her AFC and will start looking elsewhere for a new man. Some chicks are masters of deception and can hide it very well from their AFC boyfriend that she is talking or hanging out with another guy. Texting is perfect for their cheating affairs because they can get away with it without the boyfriend even knowing.
It doesn't really matter if he finds out about the cheating or if she was treating him really bad. The relationship is going to end, and the dude is going to be hurt because of her power that she holds over him by dumping him.
So here it is after all of that, the guy who was afraid of hurting her feelings being forced into the relationship because of his AFC tendencies, ended up getting hurt by her when she hurt his feelings because she had the power all along because he was an AFC.
These are the same guys who waste their time trying to get her back with no use or counting the days since they last spoke to her trying to rehash old memories. Either way, it will just eat away at you making you feel more miserable for beng foolish enough to even get involved with her in the first place.
I spoke to guys in this forum and know guys who made this same mistake of being afraid of hurting her, but they got hurt instead. And yes, this will happen to you as well if you get into the same situation.
What you should be doing is this, always keep your power and don't be forced into doing something a woman wants you to do.
Never allow her to control sex or use it as a weapon, it's even worse before the relationship even starts.
If she is denying you sex because of her conditions, let her go, because she will use it against you anytime she wants.
Don't feel bad about having sex with her or let her make you feel guilty about it. She is partaking in it as well, but she is trying to get more out of you. Don't let her do that.
Women do this men all the time, and won't think twice about hurting your feelings when it doesn't suit them. So, don't be guilt tripped or be shamed by anybody for not being in a relationship with her.
A relationship should be your decision because after all, you're the one that has to be in it with the woman. It should be one that you want to be in, with someone that is making you life better, not forcing you because of their own selfish needs. That is not a relationship.
After you can see she doesn't have the qualities you are looking for, don't be afraid to break it off when you see she isn't someone that you really want.
You can always get sex from women, but it takes a special woman to be in a great relationship with. Don't settle until you find the one you are looking for, because by being forced or settling, you will end up with a ton of grief.
An AFC wants to have sex, so they feel the only way to have sex is to be in a relationship. The women will either withhold sex until they begin a relationship, or she will make him feel guilty for having sex and not being official. In some cases, the man will feel like he is stringing her along feeling bad on his own. No matter what the situation is here, the man will automatically start the relationship off being powerless handing all of his power to the woman.
Why would that be? Because, she is withholding sex as a weapon depriving you of the sex you should be having. Her selfish needs are forcing you to be in a relationship in order to have sex. That means she can control you with whatever she wants. If she can control the sex forcing you to be in a relationship, she can control the sex during the relationship with whatever she wants you to do. And being the AFC that these guys are, they will do it in order for their d1cks to get wet.
What about the guys that are guilt tripped into being in a relationship? Same thing, she can cut off the sex until the relationship becomes official. Once she control the sex, she will start controlling you.
So all the while, the man is doing whatever she wants because he is afraid of hurting her feelings. The woman knows she is in control because it was her power that made the relationship happen and she is using it to her advantage.
Down the road, she will get tired of her AFC and will start looking elsewhere for a new man. Some chicks are masters of deception and can hide it very well from their AFC boyfriend that she is talking or hanging out with another guy. Texting is perfect for their cheating affairs because they can get away with it without the boyfriend even knowing.
It doesn't really matter if he finds out about the cheating or if she was treating him really bad. The relationship is going to end, and the dude is going to be hurt because of her power that she holds over him by dumping him.
So here it is after all of that, the guy who was afraid of hurting her feelings being forced into the relationship because of his AFC tendencies, ended up getting hurt by her when she hurt his feelings because she had the power all along because he was an AFC.
These are the same guys who waste their time trying to get her back with no use or counting the days since they last spoke to her trying to rehash old memories. Either way, it will just eat away at you making you feel more miserable for beng foolish enough to even get involved with her in the first place.
I spoke to guys in this forum and know guys who made this same mistake of being afraid of hurting her, but they got hurt instead. And yes, this will happen to you as well if you get into the same situation.
What you should be doing is this, always keep your power and don't be forced into doing something a woman wants you to do.
Never allow her to control sex or use it as a weapon, it's even worse before the relationship even starts.
If she is denying you sex because of her conditions, let her go, because she will use it against you anytime she wants.
Don't feel bad about having sex with her or let her make you feel guilty about it. She is partaking in it as well, but she is trying to get more out of you. Don't let her do that.
Women do this men all the time, and won't think twice about hurting your feelings when it doesn't suit them. So, don't be guilt tripped or be shamed by anybody for not being in a relationship with her.
A relationship should be your decision because after all, you're the one that has to be in it with the woman. It should be one that you want to be in, with someone that is making you life better, not forcing you because of their own selfish needs. That is not a relationship.
After you can see she doesn't have the qualities you are looking for, don't be afraid to break it off when you see she isn't someone that you really want.
You can always get sex from women, but it takes a special woman to be in a great relationship with. Don't settle until you find the one you are looking for, because by being forced or settling, you will end up with a ton of grief.
