Dont be afraid to get in trouble

[GaryUranga]

this is a tip I came up with myself, lately Ive been acting like this, I noticed I used to be scared of egttign in trouble or makign people upset/mad at me, maybe I was scared of gettign into a fight? well anyways Im actually lookign to upset people now, dont get me wrogn Im not goign out lookign for trouble but thinkign liek this has allowed me to relax, it kind of lets you go into the whole Im cool no matter what because Im not lookign for approval, and that has greatly helped my confidence, btw ppl are not likely to get into fights with you apaprently

 

[foomee]

Im actually lookign to upset people now

Don't try to upset people. It's actually better to be on good terms with most people so that you establish a great reputation. But continue not to care what other people think, don't try to impress people, do your own thing, yet at the same time don't try to get people upset at you. That's pointless. It seems like you have the right mindset already to attract women, but don't try to get them pissed off at you.

 

[PeeGee]

Your advice works but not in the manner you're speaking. If you're afraid to act out because you might upset people, you will end up being timid. That's not good.

If you're just like 'eff y'all' and act like an ass, I hope you get beat.

 

[sam3083]

I've also realised this recently. I feel so liberated when I just do whatever the hell I like.

With this though means you are going to upset or piss off some people, so you do have to be prepared for that. The benefits you get from acting uninhibited far outweigh making people angry though. People will love you for it.

 

[GaryUranga]

Im actually kinda acting liek an ass which is ok with me, but Im still cool to people I like, Im not actually lookign to upset but I chaged from that reaction beign bad to it becoming somehting I might expect and not care about.

My point with this thread is that it was somthign that was holdign me back big time and by changing that part it made me so much more confident

 

[Plec07]

It's good you've realised this mate. It's what really helped me along. I don't act like an ass to people. But if they annoy me I just walk off and find somebody I do enjoy spending time with. I don't care if they think I'm a git for doing that. And if they keep bothering me I tell them that they annoy me and I'd rather not spend time with them. Again I don't care what they think when I tell them this.

 

[sam3083]

I am popular, only to the people I like and care about. I really dont care about anyone else. I dont care about the normal definition of popularity, as long as Im popular to those I like.