"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Don't be afraid to fall in love!

Oisdog

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I'm not sure if this is a tip but I’ll put it in this section anyway since I think that the discussion forum is gay!

Anyways, my 'tip' is " Don't be afraid of getting into a LTR or falling in love"

I know that that statement sounds 'AFC' and 'Gay' but be honest to yourself and open your mind again.

I have been browsing this forum for about a year and a half now, though I never made an account as I was just absorbing information from the DJ bible and the tips section!

OK, were do I start.....I think a lot of people on here have become desensitized to love, and have programmed themselves to only going 'so far' with a woman and consciously retreat to avoid falling in love! They aspire to keyboard legends such as ’pook’, who for all we know could be complete nerds in real life, who know the theory behind seduction but could not put it in practise if their life depended on it!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not voicing that you should become a supplicating loser in a desperate quest for fairy-tale love…..I am however saying, do not be afraid to fall in love if it comes your way! For it is one of the greatest feelings I have ever experienced! To be in love is fulfilling and awesome….not pathetic!!

I do however, strongly urge to not fall in love ‘too quickly’…that is a sure sign of pathetic ness! Your ‘hor’ as LMS would put it, should be kept on her toes for the initial months of the development! After all, they are exciting and KEY stages in defining the relationship!

In my mind it takes a REAL DJ to create and sustain a LTR with a quality girl! Any fool can pick up girls for a ONS and get laid if he tries enough…(we all know that the essence of being a PUA is numbers)! But it takes a real man to develop a relationship that involves the love of BOTH partners! I strongly emphasis that the LOVE is EQUAL! That is were the AFC goes wrong!!! He falls in love too early with the females species and scares them away!

NOOOO!!!! Why scare away your potential girlfriend?!! I advocate that you remain non-exclusive for the first 2 months at least until she has EARNED YOU! This is the time for little game-playing and challenges, which are FUN! It is also important not to jump into a serious relationship within the first 2 months as you are still in the ‘getting to know’ each other phase! You need to ensure your girlfriend is a quality girl and is likely to be loyal!

When you do however settle down, do not be afraid to fall in love! That is not to say cut your balls off….for that is PAINFUL AND UNNATURAL! It is, however, to say that you should maintain your OWN LIFE…go after your own goals and most importantly keep you’re balls! That is not PAINFUL AND IS NATURAL! Combining being a Real man and being in love is what you should all strive for!

Just make sure you keep your own identity and don't let the relationship turn stale...

In totality, don't be afraid to fall in love but do it the right way!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Refreshing words!

I believe many men want a LTR, but are too afraid to pursue it or even admit to it.

Good stuff!
 

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Yeah thats true too bro! But a real man should be able to take the chance in a relationship....and be able to move on if things get ****ed up!
 

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Oisdog said:
In my mind it takes a REAL DJ to create and sustain a LTR with a quality girl! Any fool can pick up girls for a ONS and get laid if he tries enough…(we all know that the essence of being a PUA is numbers)! But it takes a real man to develop a relationship that involves the love of BOTH partners! I strongly emphasis that the LOVE is EQUAL! That is were the AFC goes wrong!!! He falls in love too early with the females species and scares them away!
My thoughts exactly, I remember I used to believe that a real DJ doesn't get into relationships but has sex with as many girls as possible. Now, I believe the exact opposite and believe that attracting the girls is easy. It's the part with keeping them that is the hard part.

Ask any DJ that has been here for over a year and a half. I bet they will support my statement.

excellent post

comic_relief
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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comic_relief said:
My thoughts exactly, I remember I used to believe that a real DJ doesn't get into relationships but has sex with as many girls as possible. Now, I believe the exact opposite and believe that attracting the girls is easy. It's the part with keeping them that is the hard part.

Ask any DJ that has been here for over a year and a half. I bet they will support my statement.
Thanks Comic relief

Yeah, I think that most people deep down are looking for a LTR with a quality girl! My guess is that most people on here who don't are kidding themselves and have brainwashed themselves into thinking so! Not that you need a gf of course...:D

BTW, I forgot some other points in my post!

- Be yourself- There is no point in being in a relationship if you are pretending to be someone else! Keep it real..btw that does not mean be an AFC because you are one!

- Dominate - enough said..be the alpha male that she needs! Then she won't have any reason to cheat!
 

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Yea, alot of the guys on this site who claim to be a player for life and swear that they don't know what the fcuk love is can kiss my ass. Like someone posted earlier, alot of what does site revolves around is how to deal with rejection and so creates methods to reject rejection itself. Great post man.
 
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