Terrible terrible day at the mall man. Walked around could hardly find any hot chicks to approach and when I did, sh*t f*cking sucked man, yeah I'm done with the mall. It's basically walking around for hours, finding maybe 1 or 2 chicks. Yeah... I'm not about that man. As for the approaches, not even worth mentioning man. First one, approached a chick, said "Hey, how's it going?" she misunderstood couple times, said good, yeah, sucked. Second time, group of chicks, I say "How's it going?", they say "Good" I say, "So what are your names?..." "So your not going to tell me your names?" one said "Actually my name is Victoria" and I said "Handshake?" she shook my hand and I'm like "Wow, you've got a pretty good grip, you'd be good for shotput in track" and sh*t happens. I ask to see the other girls hands, tell her she wouldn't be good, and over. Yeah, sh*t sucks.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Done with mall and also about to give up sarging.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PeterNorthisawesome
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I don't think those two even qualify as an approach... ya give up man you suck. Maybe read the DJ bible more and get a social life so you can sarge at a PARTY. Having a DJ friend also helps, I would recommend Double Your Dating by David Delangelo since you have no clue. Sorry to be blunt but it's the truth. Malls are the worst at sarging... all the jailbait walkin around and sh*t. Well hope you don't die as a virgin... I'M OFF TO EUROPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHH SH***********T!!!!!!!!!! CRUNK TIME!!!!!!!!!
Yeah man, I need a place where a lot more chicks hang out. I'm going to the beach on vacation man, but I figure what the hells the use in approaching if I won't be able to go anywhere with those girls since I probably live like 1000 miles away.
PeterNorthisawesome
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Uh... wtf stop being so damn pessemistic I was being an assh*le/kidding. You're going to a BEACH and no chicks? lol there are PLENTY of chicks at beaches, vacations are the best! You can get laid and don't have to worry about relationship or child support if she gets pregnant. Make sure u give a fake name and number though. Don't be a p&ssy just approach and GET USED TO TALKIN TO CHICKS! Also go to sum parties at the beaches and make friends.ElStud said:Yeah man, I need a place where a lot more chicks hang out. I'm going to the beach on vacation man, but I figure what the hells the use in approaching if I won't be able to go anywhere with those girls since I probably live like 1000 miles away.
GaryUranga
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I never get this problem, I never sarge, I let them come to me and work from there, do that
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, alright, I'll approach. But still, even by some slick chance I did get a girl interested enough to get laid, this like a family trip, which sucks. I could try making friends and stuff, but I don't know.PeterNorthisawesome said:Uh... wtf stop being so damn pessemistic I was being an assh*le/kidding. You're going to a BEACH and no chicks? lol there are PLENTY of chicks at beaches, vacations are the best! You can get laid and don't have to worry about relationship or child support if she gets pregnant. Make sure u give a fake name and number though. Don't be a p&ssy just approach and GET USED TO TALKIN TO CHICKS! Also go to sum parties at the beaches and make friends.
Women on vacation, especially at the beach, are a lot more apt to casual sex than at any other time.ElStud said:Yeah man, I need a place where a lot more chicks hang out. I'm going to the beach on vacation man, but I figure what the hells the use in approaching if I won't be able to go anywhere with those girls since I probably live like 1000 miles away.
PeterNorthisawesome
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Locate your nutts and stop b*tchin! Chicks are horny OK? especially on vacation cuz they don't have to worry about their boyfriends/husbands finding out. They're going to go on a f&ckin rampage. Who cares if you're on a family trip, I've been on a trip with my family and friend's family. They'll give you "free time" and if you tell them you met a "nice girl" they'll let you two hang out. Make sure you bring condoms cuz some resorts don't sell em. Do me a favor and GET "DOUBLE YOUR DATING" by DAVID DELANGELO and his DVD interview series, that covers EVERYTHING. Once you go through that and the DJ bible... your set if you don't limit yourself.ElStud said:Yeah, alright, I'll approach. But still, even by some slick chance I did get a girl interested enough to get laid, this like a family trip, which sucks. I could try making friends and stuff, but I don't know.
muzicfreak2k3
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yeah and you have nothing to worry about hen you on vacation either
You'll never see these girls ever again, so who cares if you get rejected ?!
You'll never see these girls ever again, so who cares if you get rejected ?!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonJoseCantosie
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As a fellow brotha, don't give up son.
U might have to open the sets more strongly than just
"hi, how's it goin?"
in their minds, they might be thinking, "Aright...he's friendly but why is he really talking to me?"
If u want to be direct like that, mine as well convey u like them more early on. I'd say its beating around the bush if ur not.
But keep it up! Giving up will only get u to run away....its hard...i know...but u can do this.
U might have to open the sets more strongly than just
"hi, how's it goin?"
in their minds, they might be thinking, "Aright...he's friendly but why is he really talking to me?"
If u want to be direct like that, mine as well convey u like them more early on. I'd say its beating around the bush if ur not.
But keep it up! Giving up will only get u to run away....its hard...i know...but u can do this.
Yeah, I'm not giving up man. It's just so many failures lately man. I got no problem actually going up to her, but I fail after that man. Even after reading the DJ Bible, watching Mystery Method and stuff, I'm still failing. I probably just need to work on applying the techniques better or something.
DonJoseCantosie
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Yea man, it can be frustrating. Ditch Mystery Method....to scientific.Just go up to a girl say that u want to meet her, then after the opener...find out about her...since u said u want to meet her....that way, the transition is more natural and smooth....a compliment about her would good. Also, the situation at hand is good to talk about after the opener. The DJ Bible conversation threads need a huge re-working.