nice story...except your forgot marriage is playing with fire....dont be too sure about it......with marriage the magical fear of you walking away ends because you are trapped with marrital law and kids and her mission(to cage you) was successful.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think that's the most inspirational thing you've written yet. That's very well put.Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER
In the end, gentlemen, I pray that we all live the lives we dream for, and that we all gain the respect we desire, and when it is our times to die, that we die proud, that we lived the life we wanted, and passed on our wisdom, to the next generation of newbies, who need inspiration, just as we did.
One.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Somehow it doesn't seem being able to think freely in that situation would make it any better. You could think, i am may never see my girl again, family whatever.even if you get captured by terrorists, bound up and gaged. You are still free to think whatever you like. You always have that choice.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.