"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OKay I don't know why, but I have been feeling like utter **** for the past few days!
Just down emotionally and The reason escapes me! I do my best not to show it, but everyone notices something is wrong when I'm not craking jokes as often and when i'm a little more quiet. It like my wit just disapeared... Regardless of this I talked to an older, but cute woman on the bus. We talked about going to school, passions, dreams, etc, etc... Overall it went well, it was shaky at the start, but she was really receptive so that helped. I felt slightly better afterwards, but then an hour later or so I was down again. So I went to my friends house and I tried talking to an old person, but I didn't know what to say to him lol. Anyways on friday I finished all my hi's, I just went grocery shopping with my parents and done! Though I still need one more hi for school to finish week 1:cuss:

Totals
* 2 Elderly people
* 1 Delivery person (mail,ups,pizza)
* 1 Gas station worker
* 1 couple (Couple counts as 1 person)
* 1 Black Person
* 1 Homeless person
* 1 cute girl (outside of school) One (girl I talked about in description wasn't that old, prob early twenties, and she was HB 8.)
* 2 cute girls (In your school)
* 2 convos with whatever strangers you want!

BTW* Note to everyone* When you feel down and just can't be enthousiastic, its best not to approach anyone you are interested in! It deosn't end well usually and you tend to suck the energy from the people around you when you have none!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is it too late to join Don Juan Bootcamp? I'm new here and I wish to learn the ways of the DJ and this looks like the right place to start, Im a senior in high school.
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Alright, cool. Ive done some reading of the DJ bible and downloaded the bootcamp and all that. I'm prepared to start my week 1 day 1 tomorrow.:up:
 

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Yesterday night me and my friend hung out with two HB8's from a school like 20 minutes away. I fully tried to use C&F and establish kino with the one that I believed was the hotter of the two, but I still need some more practice. After talking to that one later in the night, I found out that her friend found me to be arrogant, and was turned off by that. That's probably a sign that I need to completely town down the C&F. I know it can be a powerful tool but only if its used lightly. Too much isn't a good thing. However, I got two girls outside of my school in which brings my total to one more than I needed to have.

Totals
* 2 Elderly people
* 1 Delivery person (mail,ups,pizza)
* 1 Gas station worker
* 1 couple (Couple counts as 1 person)
* 1 Black Person
* 1 Homeless person
* 1 cute girl (outside of school) - Two
* 2 cute girls (In your school) - One
* 2 convos with whatever strangers you want! - One
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Alright so the day after bootcamp started I went Frisbee golfing with 2 of my friends. We were golfing and were looking for my friends frisbee in the parking lot when these two older men walked by, like 50 years old. I started talking to them and found out that they have been going to the course every day for 50 years. We ended up golfing with them and I enjoyed talking and laughing with them. (and guess what, one of them was black! haha.)

Last night I was hanging out with some friends and we crashed this one girls bon fire. I knew most people there and there was an HB8 who is a year younger than me that I approached and said hello to and got her name last week in week #1. I got to the fire and everyone was like "SPEAK!" and the quarterback and all the football team was hugging me and high fiving me and what not. (great social proof.) Anyway I was doin my own thing talking to all my buds and a few girls, and finally went over to the other side of the fire to talk to this girl. I did some great push/pull with her and then went and jumped on the trampoline with my 2 buds and her 2 friends. I got some good kino in and teased her a lot haha. As I was saying goodbye to everyone, I saw her staring at me and I went and gave her a hug and in a playful tone was like, "goodbye sweetheart." Haha, so crossed off a few for Week #2.

Totals
* 2 Elderly people
* 1 Delivery person (mail,ups,pizza)
* 1 Gas station worker
* 1 couple (Couple counts as 1 person)
* 1 Black Person - Got one hell ya.
* 1 Homeless person
* 1 cute girl (outside of school)
* 2 cute girls (In your school) - One
* 2 convos with whatever strangers you want! -one
 

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Totals
* 2 Elderly people
* 1 Delivery person (mail,ups,pizza)
* 1 Gas station worker
* 1 couple (Couple counts as 1 person)
* 1 Black Person
* 1 Homeless person
* 1 cute girl (outside of school)
* 2 cute girls (In your school) Done
* 2 convos with whatever strangers you want! Done


At soccer I had a good conversation with one of the refs. Although he was a cool guy he sucked at reffing.
I crashed this party and people didnt think I was going so everyone was happy to see me. Yeah so i was talking to a few girls older than me. I didnt try anything because I just want to focus on the bootcamp
 

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Week 1 Day 1

So today I went to church and to target and I didn't see a single cute girl all day lol. But I managed to scratch 11 strangers off of my list, but I'm hoping for more of a challenge because the old ladies and average joes are easy to eye contact+hello.

20 strangers in school: 0

30 strangers outside school: 11
 

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Well... I'm sick, so I'm not gonna be posting for a few days probably
Have fun guys
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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hey guys, im new to this forum and i just read through walden's BC and its an inspiration, can i still join in? if so here are my results for today


week 1 -day 1
3 eye contacts(2 of them girls, but i looked away first, kinda wierd staring) and 1 hi to a stranger while walking the dog.
 

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SPEAK said:
yes you can still join but you better turn it on you have to do 2 weeks in less than 5 days!
Oh damn, I didn't know I was expected to catch up completely. Well that's fine I'm pretty sure I can do it by friday, I got my confidence :D

I only was able to go to school today though, although I might go out later.

20 eye contact/hellos in school: 6

30 eye contact/hellos outside of school: 11


convos:
2 elderly people
1 delivery person
1 gas station worker
1 couple
1 black person
1 homeless person
1 cute girl (in school)
2 cute girls (outside of school)
2 strangers/anybodies
none yet but tomorrow I'm going to embark on the grand scavenger hunt. I'm having a hard time finding a place to go for some of these people, where do you guys go in search of people?
 

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E_Sex said:
Oh damn, I didn't know I was expected to catch up completely. Well that's fine I'm pretty sure I can do it by friday, I got my confidence :D
Good luck! You'll have to work

E_Sex said:
I'm having a hard time finding a place to go for some of these people, where do you guys go in search of people?
Well, the best place that I know of so far is the public transit system. For where I live that means Trax (train) and the buss. I actually live near a gas station, so I'm going to hit it up for my gas station worker one, but I'm also going to go a little out of my way to take the buss, to see if there's anyone who I can get on there. Because there usually is.
The grocery store is also a good place, and though I have yet to try it, I'm guessing that the park is good as well.
 

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E_Sex said:
where do you guys go in search of people?

I just see people throughout my day, you know. But on thursday I am going to sell tickets in the college town so I will get all my conversations then. Especially with the homeless and hot ass girl crowd.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WEEK 2 Day 4

Well, unfortunately nothing special has happened in terms of the boot camp since day 1 of the week.

I decided to utilize some spare time that I had tonight and go down to the 7-11 and talk up the clerk. And well, it didn't go as great as planned. There was an Indian guy working there so he didn't speak that great of english but we talked for about a minute or so and then he had to get to the guy behind me. Anyways, I'm counting it as half.


Totals
* 2 Elderly people
* 1 Delivery person (mail,ups,pizza)
* 1 Gas station worker - Half
* 1 couple (Couple counts as 1 person)
* 1 Black Person
* 1 Homeless person
* 1 cute girl (outside of school)
* 2 cute girls (In your school)
* 2 convos with whatever strangers you want! - One
 

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AlexLefty said:
Well, unfortunately nothing special has happened in terms of the boot camp since day 1 of the week.

I decided to utilize some spare time that I had tonight and go down to the 7-11 and talk up the clerk. And well, it didn't go as great as planned. There was an Indian guy working there so he didn't speak that great of english but we talked for about a minute or so and then he had to get to the guy behind me. Anyways, I'm counting it as half.


Totals
* 2 Elderly people
* 1 Delivery person (mail,ups,pizza)
* 1 Gas station worker - Half
* 1 couple (Couple counts as 1 person)
* 1 Black Person
* 1 Homeless person
* 1 cute girl (outside of school)
* 2 cute girls (In your school)
* 2 convos with whatever strangers you want! - One

i too had a convo with an indian gas station guy today. same problem, but i didnt count it as a half. Its OVER 2 mins or nothing.
 

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I guess I'm lucky, the guy who works at the gas station that I fill up at is asian and I've chatted with him many times before. Maybe its because I'm asian as well, since we're on friendly terms to where he'll let me get a cappucino for free. Indian gas station workers on the other hand seem to be more into getting you in and out as soon as possible, to maximize efficiency.
 

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Kevansta said:
I guess I'm lucky, the guy who works at the gas station that I fill up at is asian and I've chatted with him many times before. Maybe its because I'm asian as well, since we're on friendly terms to where he'll let me get a cappucino for free. Indian gas station workers on the other hand seem to be more into getting you in and out as soon as possible, to maximize efficiency.

Hey thats awesome man, its good that you are working on being more outgoing! But the point of this exercise is to get you out of your comfort zone, and therefor you must go find STRANGERS. People you have never seen before, and have conversations with them!
 

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Hey is it cool if I jump in here? I'm new here and just saw this thread
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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