kingxxxman
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sounds good bro.... gotta summon the courage to do that but it shall be done.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This was actually my first time attempting to sell tickets, so I don't have much experience to delve upon for discussing strategies, but I will keep on doing it in the future because it was fun. I did get advice from someone I was selling to, she said to put more enthousiasm into it and to make it seem like a huge deal. I will be working on this for sure! hope you can make the 7000 man.Hey I Sell tickets too man I just expanded my business as well. I plan on making 7,000 dollars by christmas if I keep up the hustling. We should share some strategies sometime?
And I think that getting out on the street and selling stuff should be a REQUIREMENT for all aspiring DJs not just for girls and what not, but for your future as a whole. I go out and hit the street with a huge smile on my face and have as much fun as I can and people are DRAWN to me, I hardly have to go and find them to sell to them. Its an EXCELLENT confidence booster and you have no problem approaching hot ass girls because u have a reason to.
As far as the bootcamp, I have been slacking but I have gotten about 15 strangers done.
So for me:
14 Hot girl hellos (6 left)
15 Stranger hellos/conversations (15 left)
And Alex you have to hold onto that motivation for as long as you can, I went through EXACTLY what you are going through now 6 months ago. I stopped eating fastfood only drinking water and so forth. But it IS going to wear off so get as much out of it as you can while its still burning inside of u!
HAha nah chris, this WONT wear off, atleast not for a few months. It's easy for confidence to wear off, but for an entire mind set/whole new life and ROUTINE to wear off is tough, if you keep with it. ;oSPEAK said:But it IS going to wear off so get as much out of it as you can while its still burning inside of u!
I know what you mean, we might make eye contact from a distance (too far away to say anything) but once we get in talking range, their eyes dart away. It's just our society I think. And you need to start trusting your gut, if you feel you should count it, then god damm1t count it! Trust that primal instinct!tiesto5 said:My main problem is making eye contact and then their eyes dart away and I feel that it was not long enough for the hello.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
well my band is playing at a show, so thats what we are selling for.SPEAK said:Hell ya man I just spent 600 dollars on a concert next week, hope it pulls through!
SO do you just scalp them or buy them in bulk or what? Wheres ur proft come from?
And what type of events are you selling at.
AlexLefty said:Alright so today I went and got a haircut at around 12 in the morning. After that I hit up the local Harmons to get some strangers in. In about 10 minutes I got 6 people.
It was really interesting because about half of them were cold approaches. I'd just go stand next to them as they were looking at food or something and ask how you could tell which ones were good, or their opinion on it. People are actually a lot more friendly and willing to talk than you might thinkIt makes me realize how easy and good situational openers are.
After that I hung out with my friend and we went exploring the local stores. I got more hellos in that time frame as well. I didn't carry around my journal today though.. tisk tisk :cuss: The gayest thing happend too, as we were leaving the shoe store I stuck my gum on one of the shoes (funny right!!! :crackupand and employee literally chased us down and made me pay for them. FVCK ME! I didn't know it was his dream job and he was so dedicated :box:
Anyways, I got 16 stranger girls all together today. One or two of them also just looked or stared at me when I said hello. Sad they have no social skills :crackup:.. I'm also going to practice getting more hellos at school. Just because your done with it, doesn't mean you should stop. Just do it for the fun and love of the game.
Overall totals:
School: 21
Strangers: 19
Good luck bros
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thank you sir, and to be honest with you, it was actually harder/more awkward with my friend. He's afc and i try to help him out, but he just doesn't listen, so sometimes he'd just tail 3 ft behind me when I did it. The only reason I was with him anyways is just because we were hanging out, and he wanted to check out some stores, so I decided to get more people while we were there. I got maybe 80% alone or when I broke away from him and started taking laps around the store while he shopped.SPEAK said:Nicely Done Alex.
The only thing I might critique is the fact that you are doing it with a friend.
So even if you don't make eye contact you just shout "HELLO!" ??SPEAK said:I do say hi to everyone in my halls no matter if I know em or not.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.