Dominus Umbra's Journal

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Dominus Umbra

New Member

Oct 22, 2017

I’m here because I want to leave my ,, comfort zone,, and improve my social skills. This is gonna be my personal journal with daily updates.

A little bit about me.
20 years old virgin, never was in a relationship, never kissed a girl, living in his comfort bubble.

Purpose.
Being able to approach boys and girls and have small talks with them.
Remember their name.

What I’m going to do? Step 1
Approach at least 5 people a day.
Approach a total of 30 people.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.