"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Doing the occasional "nice" thing

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Suicide

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What would you guys say is an appropriate "nice" thing to do for your girlfriend every once and a while? I am usually pretty c/f but I know girls like that occasional half-way sappy thing every so often. I thought about flowers, but I just can't help thinking how lame they are. Any ideas?

Also, what do you guys think about letting out the big L word? I know you always wait for her to utter it first, but there has to be some point in time where your relationship will begin to whither if neither one of you has the cajones to come out with it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Suicide
What would you guys say is an appropriate "nice" thing to do for your girlfriend every once and a while? I am usually pretty c/f but I know girls like that occasional half-way sappy thing every so often. I thought about flowers, but I just can't help thinking how lame they are. Any ideas?

Also, what do you guys think about letting out the big L word? I know you always wait for her to utter it first, but there has to be some point in time where your relationship will begin to whither if neither one of you has the cajones to come out with it.
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About being the tough-a$$ indifferent DJ and then doing a nice thing:

This works very well if you can get the balance right. Don't play this game if you don't have the will power for it.

As for the L word:

Don't utter it just because you think it's what you're supposed to do or that it is the "normal" thing to do because you've been out for a while. Don't say it in a moment of passion. Say it when you really feel it and can reason why. Men are logical, woman are emotion.
 
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SAY IT WHEN UR STRONG..sorry for the caps..and she chinks ar ur armor because you really do love her.

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How long has she been your girlfriend? If it has been enough time that you are very comfortable in the relationship, its fine to treat her from time to time.

If you want to get her flowers, that doesn't have to mean getting her a dozen red roses (red roses=i love you). You can do something simple like pick a few outside and give those to her as just a simple "hey, I found these for you while I was walking in the park earlier." Simple things like that seem pretty effective.

About the love thing... In the last few years of various relationships, I've had it said to me first, and I've said it first. It is essential to say it only when you are absolutely sure, there is no alterior motive (such as trying to keep the relationship), you have felt that way for quite a while, you know she feels the same way. I've had great relationships when I said it first under those conditions. When it comes too soon or is forced, it really messes up the entire relationship.
 
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