Doing something that scares you should make you more assertive in life!

[stuka1939]

I think this is very true.

Have you ever realized after you stuck up for yourself, got involved in contact sparring for martial arts or gave a speech in front of a bunch of people your confidence skyrockets?

I think true inner peace and confidence comes from knowing you can handle stressful situations.

Being tall and/or good-looking/educated does not really do much for your confidence.

I am sure some of you (like me) might be afraid to date a hot chick because you are afraid what "other males" could do when you are out together.

e.g. Some males have no respect and will try and grab her in a sexual way or hit on her right in front of you.

I am not saying you should get violent with these people, but being confident in your ability to handle stress would be very useful.

e.g. You may have to say something to these guys for them to back off!

So, go out and something that requires some balls!

(E.g. skydiving, scuba diving, cage fighting)

I have a friend of a friend who gets tons of girls. He is good-looking and all, but I think his success has alot to with him being confident from being in Combat in Afghanistan.


True confidence (with chicks) comes from being able to control your fear, not how intelligent or physically attractive you are.

 

[jd782]

True. I was scared of heights. What did I do? When I was in the Army I went to Airborne school and became a paratrooper. Now I've lost that fear.

My grandfather served in the U.S. Marine Corps during World War 2. He saw major combat. Even fighting in the battle of Iwo Jima. Now, he's 84 now. And he still has no fear. He'll stand up to anyone. He got this from experience.

And alot of it comes from, just doing it. Looking at the problem, stepping up, and getting the job done. This is where the fear ends and the confidence begins.

You gain confidence if you know how to physically hurt someone. (Martial Arts, ETC). And the mental attitude to do it. Having been in the military. I got to attend a few courses on hand to hand combat.

Now. I've never snapped someones neck for real. But I learned some "cool" things to do to a person. And knowing I have the ability to hurt someone gives me confidence when dealing with people. It keeps me from calm and gives me confidence. And I still keep myself in top shape, knowing I can go the distance.

I worked undercover in stores busting shoplifters. I was in alot of fights. Some got very violent. I learned 2 things. One. I'm alot faster than I thought. And 2. As much trash as people talk. Most people can't fight. So I know. Not everyone I meet can fight like Jason Bourne.

If you feel strong on the inside it shows on the outside.

 

[stuka1939]

True. I was scared of heights. What did I do? When I was in the Army I went to Airborne school and became a paratrooper. Now I've lost that fear.

My grandfather served in the U.S. Marine Corps during World War 2. He saw major combat. Even fighting in the battle of Iwo Jima. Now, he's 84 now. And he still has no fear. He'll stand up to anyone. He got this from experience.
And alot of it comes from, just doing it. Looking at the problem, stepping up, and getting the job done. This is where the fear ends and the confidence begins.

You gain confidence if you know how to physically hurt someone. (Martial Arts, ETC). And the mental attitude to do it. Having been in the military. I got to attend a few courses on hand to hand combat.

Now. I've never snapped someones neck for real. But I learned some "cool" things to do to a person. And knowing I have the ability to hurt someone gives me confidence when dealing with people. It keeps me from calm and gives me confidence. And I still keep myself in top shape, knowing I can go the distance.

I worked undercover in stores busting shoplifters. I was in alot of fights. Some got very violent. I learned 2 things. One. I'm alot faster than I thought. And 2. As much trash as people talk. Most people can't fight. So I know. Not everyone I meet can fight like Jason Bourne.

If you feel strong on the inside it shows on the outside.

Cool stuff man. Was he in the 4th Marine Division? My grandmother's brother was in the 4th Marine Division and was KIA at Kwajelein. Lee Marvin the actor was in his company or platoon.

Back to the topic. I am glad you agree with me and I plan on taking some Judo when I get some money.

I am also a firm believer of "the more attractive your girlfriend, wife, etc....the more chances of you getting into a verbal or physical altercation.