"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Doing Everything You Can to Get the Girl You Want

Mavrick

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You've tried everything to get this girl to want you. You've made numerous phone calls because you feel like that if you don't call, then she won't be talking to you. You've left notes and flowers on her car, or you handed flowers on your date. You did this because you thought she'd like you more, but you didn't realize you were just reinforcing her bad attitude or reluctance of any attitude toward you.

You've tried everything: Calls, flowers, candy, friendliness, conversation, long phone calls, and this chick just won't reciprocate. The harder you try the further she seems. Damn what do you do now? It's getting old and it's really hurting. It feels like a dagger that's been thrust and twisted into your gut.

You've let everything she does or doesn't do in the relationship get to you. You're whole mind and life is consumed with thought over this woman. I'm going to tell you why. She has become your life. She knows it, too. Therefore, she walks and wipes her shoes on you like a dirty doormat. She knows you have given all your power over to her, so she's just going to toy with you because it makes her feel good. It boosts her ego.

Now what do you do? You do nothing. You stop! You start looking at this situation from a different angle. From the outside looking in.

How are you benefiting from chasing this woman? How is what she doing to you good for you? Would you treat yourself the way she's treating you? Obviously you would because you're letting someone else do it.

Stop right not and take your hand and sweep it down the side of your face, then down your chest, and down your stomach. As you do that, focus on your thoughts and where you feel them. Ask yourself if this girl is making you think those thoughts or are you (IT'S YOU!). Now reach up and act like you're grabbing a dart out of where ever you feel those thoughts and pluck them out and discard them.

When you transfer your value to a woman by getting mad at her or constantly giving without anything in you return, you've just lowered the woman's interest level. Only give as a reward. Don't give in order to buy her affection or attention. Just be your natural self. If that's not what she wants, cut her loose.

Now stop calling, stop buying gifts, stop trying to prove to her or any other woman that you are good enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone. Let the woman prove of themselves. If the woman isn't reciprocating, she just set you free. Free to find another.

Now that life is an adventure, you can go anywhere and there you will be. Now you can enjoy life as the adventure that it is. You can play the game now. You can play the game by being able to walk away and that my friend...makes you interesting.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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guru1000

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This thread is BANG ON.

The only person responsible for your feelings is YOU.

No one CONTROLS your emotions except you. To THINK a woman has an AFFECT on your STATE shows how much POWER she has over you.

At the end of the day, YOU are the only one in the driver's seat and decide how to FEEL.

Stop ASSIGNING / BLAMING and start ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY for the way you think.
 

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When you transfer your value to a woman by getting mad at her or constantly giving without anything in you return, you've just lowered the woman's interest level. Only give as a reward. Don't give in order to buy her affection or attention. Just be your natural self. If that's not what she wants, cut her loose.
couldnt have said this better.

you havent been here long ( unless changed names) and you get it. it took me awhile to realize i was doing this subconsciously and even longer to change this behaviour.

good post brother!
 
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