Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Doing Everything You Can to Get the Girl You Want

Mavrick

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You've tried everything to get this girl to want you. You've made numerous phone calls because you feel like that if you don't call, then she won't be talking to you. You've left notes and flowers on her car, or you handed flowers on your date. You did this because you thought she'd like you more, but you didn't realize you were just reinforcing her bad attitude or reluctance of any attitude toward you.

You've tried everything: Calls, flowers, candy, friendliness, conversation, long phone calls, and this chick just won't reciprocate. The harder you try the further she seems. Damn what do you do now? It's getting old and it's really hurting. It feels like a dagger that's been thrust and twisted into your gut.

You've let everything she does or doesn't do in the relationship get to you. You're whole mind and life is consumed with thought over this woman. I'm going to tell you why. She has become your life. She knows it, too. Therefore, she walks and wipes her shoes on you like a dirty doormat. She knows you have given all your power over to her, so she's just going to toy with you because it makes her feel good. It boosts her ego.

Now what do you do? You do nothing. You stop! You start looking at this situation from a different angle. From the outside looking in.

How are you benefiting from chasing this woman? How is what she doing to you good for you? Would you treat yourself the way she's treating you? Obviously you would because you're letting someone else do it.

Stop right not and take your hand and sweep it down the side of your face, then down your chest, and down your stomach. As you do that, focus on your thoughts and where you feel them. Ask yourself if this girl is making you think those thoughts or are you (IT'S YOU!). Now reach up and act like you're grabbing a dart out of where ever you feel those thoughts and pluck them out and discard them.

When you transfer your value to a woman by getting mad at her or constantly giving without anything in you return, you've just lowered the woman's interest level. Only give as a reward. Don't give in order to buy her affection or attention. Just be your natural self. If that's not what she wants, cut her loose.

Now stop calling, stop buying gifts, stop trying to prove to her or any other woman that you are good enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone. Let the woman prove of themselves. If the woman isn't reciprocating, she just set you free. Free to find another.

Now that life is an adventure, you can go anywhere and there you will be. Now you can enjoy life as the adventure that it is. You can play the game now. You can play the game by being able to walk away and that my friend...makes you interesting.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This thread is BANG ON.

The only person responsible for your feelings is YOU.

No one CONTROLS your emotions except you. To THINK a woman has an AFFECT on your STATE shows how much POWER she has over you.

At the end of the day, YOU are the only one in the driver's seat and decide how to FEEL.

Stop ASSIGNING / BLAMING and start ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY for the way you think.
 

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When you transfer your value to a woman by getting mad at her or constantly giving without anything in you return, you've just lowered the woman's interest level. Only give as a reward. Don't give in order to buy her affection or attention. Just be your natural self. If that's not what she wants, cut her loose.
couldnt have said this better.

you havent been here long ( unless changed names) and you get it. it took me awhile to realize i was doing this subconsciously and even longer to change this behaviour.

good post brother!
 
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