"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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wd40

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Ok so ive been seeing this girl for the last few weeks... im not sure what to call it because shes not officially my girlfriend but we have been doing more than just like hooking up at parties... ive actually taken her places. Im havin a good time and this is definitely the first girl ive hooked up with that i would consider getting involved in a legit relationship.

Now to get to the point of my post. Its kind of annoying because i feel like im doing all the work. Its always me who calls her. Its always me that has to pick what we do for the day or whatever. its always me who makes the move to start like making out or whatever. Im used to this in the beginning of trying to get with a girl but its been a few weeks now and it would be nice if maybe once in a while she would call me and ask me to go somewhere or if she would start making out with me instead of me start making out with her.

maybe its a small complaint i dunno but anyways what are your guys thoughts as far as ending this behavior from her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Your tired of doing all the calling, being the constant initiator. Well, there's a simple solution to that problem : Just don't. See what happens.
 

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We're still in high school some girls are just shy, and will want you to be the boss and start things ect.... so watch out for that

And don't stop completely, over the last few weeks she's probably got used to you starting and deciding these things and changing it like that is just rude. I mean how would you feel if she was the one that always started things then she just stopped completely.

Just slow it down, maybe even call her up on it just be joking around or something and mention that you do all the work or something.

But stop calling and stuff completely if you want, then tell me what happens.
 

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Easy, stop calling her for a bit. Ignore her. Make her wonder just how much you like her. Women love a bit of mystery.

Its always me who calls her.
Stop calling for a bit, don't give her too much attention. Make her wonder why you've stopped calling.

Its always me that has to pick what we do for the day or whatever.
This is fine, women like men who take charge. Women hate men being indecisive, e.g. him saying: "oh I don't know what we should do, what do you think?"

its always me who makes the move to start like making out or whatever
She may be shy. Escalate things slowly, build up the sexual tension. Build up her arousal.

She's either shy and submissive, or not as attracted to you as you'd like, or a combination of both.

If she is attracted to you, she'll wonder why you aren't calling, and she'll get in contact with you. You have to go hot and cold on her.
 

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alright ill get a little colder and see if that does the trick... i hope it doesnt backfire but we'll see. Ill keep you guys updated
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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