"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dog-Ugly Girl wants me
- Thread starter miba
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
basically i would suggest be-friending the dog and finding another girl all together. girls have a code just like guys do. if the cutie knows that the dog likes you, then you're off limits. the only way you're gonna get cutie is if dog recommends it or says she's ok with it. by be-friending dog (and make sure it's clear that you guys are just friends) cutie will be in your presence more often. your job here is to be the charming stud that you are, without making any moves on cutie.
eventually after all the pieces are in the right places, cutie will either mention it to dog, or dog will recommend it. the up side to this is you get the check mate. the down side is that you will have to be patient and wait for the right opportunity to reveal itself. this is why you're gonna be spinning other plates while the stars align themselves and open up the heavens to you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.