"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Doesn't maintaining a harem take a super amount of time & energy?

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Let's say a man is maintaining a harem with 4 chicks that he each bangs weekly. That's pretty much Friday evening through Sunday afternoon every week, plus I would presume some phone time during the week. And such chicks in the harem are always bailing (not the least once they figure out that the man is maintaining a harem), so a good amount of time & energy has to be expended to put warm a33es back into the rotation. It seems to me that such a man becomes a slave to the harem. Now of course for the true Alpha who has chicks Tindering him, there is no energy expended to replacing gals, but for us regular AFCs, it's a lot of work! Charlies Sheen, who obviously could accomplish maintaining a harem, has decided that all his time & energy is too valuable for this, and simply rents his harem.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've tried it for short stints. Something ends up suffering. It takes time away from your hobbies, work, gym, friends, family, etc.

I have a friend that does it now. He has sex with 3 different women per week on average. Most he only has sex with 2-3 times and he is done with them. He has no hobbies. He has no home to take care of. He has a 40hr/week job. Most days he spends on the phone calling/texting women. His biggest problem is not having the money to go on dates.
 

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I've tried it for short stints. Something ends up suffering. It takes time away from your hobbies, work, gym, friends, family, etc.

I have a friend that does it now. He has sex with 3 different women per week on average. Most he only has sex with 2-3 times and he is done with them. He has no hobbies. He has no home to take care of. He has a 40hr/week job. Most days he spends on the phone calling/texting women. His biggest problem is not having the money to go on dates.
Howie,

Is this truck driver dude? Im finding most chicks absorb energy talking and being physical with and a small amount amp me up and add to my energy and focus.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Does my observation about the energy thing sound about right? A woman can consume energy even letting you penetrate and degrade your focus. With a small percentage dipping in raises my focus and energy. Whats your thoughts?
Definitely women suck energy and focus out of men. There is a reason NFL teams set a curfew and lock their players in the hotel at night! When I am talking to a few girls and having sex with one, my hobbies and job suffer somewhat. I've seen it with most men at some point.

The only time a woman doesn't suck much energy and focus out of me is when I am in a LTR. I don't end up devoting as much time to her as I should and the focus is usually on me.
 

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Definitely women suck energy and focus out of men. There is a reason NFL teams set a curfew and lock their players in the hotel at night! When I am talking to a few girls and having sex with one, my hobbies and job suffer somewhat. I've seen it with most men at some point.

The only time a woman doesn't suck much energy and focus out of me is when I am in a LTR. I don't end up devoting as much time to her as I should and the focus is usually on me.
I think thats the whole point. They harvest our energy like in the matrix.

I had a minority of babes if i stuck it in then that it raised my energy and focus. Did you observe this? Ive only been in 49, not 500-1000 like some of thr others. But i spent most my years in LTR.
 

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I've tried it for short stints. Something ends up suffering. It takes time away from your hobbies, work, gym, friends, family, etc.

I have a friend that does it now. He has sex with 3 different women per week on average. Most he only has sex with 2-3 times and he is done with them. He has no hobbies. He has no home to take care of. He has a 40hr/week job. Most days he spends on the phone calling/texting women. His biggest problem is not having the money to go on dates.
I have 4 active plates.

I own a business, work out and I have lots of other things that require time.

I rarely call any of them. Rarely means one 10 minute phone call every couple weeks. I respond their texts daily. They all know that I am busy. One complains about it and the other 3 dont.

Drink dates only. After fvcking them it might be drinks then my house. Or theirs. Most of the time I save dates for new possible plates and the rest just come over
 
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